S0, you’re dating this man, and he treats you unbelievably well.

You share intense CHEMISTRY with him that you can’t remember ever feeling before. You think about him more than you’d like to admit… and you quickly go from hardly knowing him, to feeling like you’ve known him all your life.

You’re amazed that the more you get to know him… the more great things you see and find out about him. And as time goes on, you can’t believe he’s becoming even MORE LOVING, MORE CARING, and MORE AFFECTIONATE. It’s like he’s THE OPPOSITE of the men you’ve dated in the past. He’s open and loving. He doesn’t have any “hang-ups”. He doesn’t act RESISTANT when it comes to sharing love and affection, or talking about the future. And he doesn’t show the FEAR OF COMMITMENT other men do that gets in the way of growing a real and lasting relationship.

But somewhere in the back of your mind, you can’t help but wonder…”Is this too good to be true?”

And as much as you’d like to play it safe, you can’t and it’s too late. You’ve already fallen in love with him. And he’s fallen in love with you. And before you know it, you’re both saying “I love you” at the end of each conversation you have. Soon you’re spending so much time together that you decide to take a big step and move in together.

At first, living together is great and your relationship is better than ever. You’re both excited to be together and to spend each night in each other’s arms.

But just when you feel like this could be the one special relationship that will be truly secure and lasting… something suddenly “shifts”.

The casual, easy-going, affectionate way you and the man in your life had with each other disappears. He stops talking to you the way he used to. He stops sharing his feelings with you. And your intuition tells you that, for some reason, his feelings have changed. All of a sudden he’s DISTANT. All of a sudden he acts irritable and explodes for no reason when you try and talk to him about your relationship or your feelings. All of a sudden he seems more interested in his work, or hanging out with his friends, than spending time with you.

At first you think the change you’re seeing is just part of your imagination.

Or that you’re just being paranoid. But you notice that he really has stopped saying “I love you” and being affectionate with you. In fact, the only time you hear him say “I love you” anymore is after you say it to him and he responds back. The nail in the coffin is when you realize that he’s even stopped initiating things with you physically. And when you drop hints with him that you’d like to be intimate, or you put yourself out there and initiate something… he doesn’t respond.


When did men become the ones who are “too tired” for sex… or just aren’t in the mood? It’s then that you realize that something must be seriously wrong. And you know that if you don’t do something, and talk to him, that your relationship is going to keep slipping away into nothingness.

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  1. Kimberly Coss on April 4, 2009 at 8:32 am

    I found this article interesting. I am in this situation now and would definitely like to know how to prevent the “tailspin.” My man is depressed after losing his job last week and has basically shutdown. He was the affectionate loving best friend I thought I had found, but much has changed now that he is going thru this part of his life. The article is intriguing and it makes me want to read more on the subject.

  2. Lani on April 5, 2009 at 2:17 am

    When i read this article it seems like i am reliving my past again. It happens to me before. It’s like living in a fairy land where all things are perfect at first. All things work the way things should be. At one point of time i was afraid coz i can’t believe it’s true but soon my fears came to reality. I learn that things just dont turn out the way we thought it does.

  3. Suneeta Ganu on April 6, 2009 at 10:38 am

    I have gone through a similar situation. Much worse, because I was already married. This article is good because of its real life likeness. I think , the reason this happens is compatibility problem. Also, men like variety all the time. For them, each woman they desire is like a conquest. After achieving it, they lose interest. Familiarity breeds contempt for them. Whereas, a woman basically is devoted partner and wants a life-time relationship.

  4. Teirza on April 10, 2009 at 9:13 am

    What a great article! This was great to read from a male perspective and find out what you had to say about what might cause a man to be less affectionate. I am so grateful that you posted this.

  5. Editor on April 13, 2009 at 10:03 am

    Teirza, so glad you like Christian Carter – I think, too that having a man talk about this is incredibly helpful. Sarah

  6. AR on April 16, 2009 at 5:55 am

    Good morning,

    I hope I’m writing this to the author of this article, Christian Carter. I found this article and to be honest I just saw myself in it by all the things that are happening to me and my fiancé. I feel exactly how your article reads and he acts exactly the same as how you describe in the article. Now, the only thing is that I felt like the end of the article didn’t give me a “what to do” kind of hint or advice in order to create a relationship with him in mind. And how do I have to do things and show him that I understand how things work for him to make the relationship better if all I have tried (that know to do) is the TWO mistakes you mentioned in the article not to do? I just want to do anything and everything I can to not let this relationship die….

  7. Editor on April 20, 2009 at 7:26 pm

    AR, Thank you so much for your question, and I’m so sorry Christian Carter doesn’t answer questions here. I hope you found the link at the bottom of the article to go to his site and get all his free newsletters – you’ll get so much help there. And Rori Raye has a blog: http://blog.HaveTheRelationshipYouWant.com where she answers questions like yours. From me – what I’ve learned from both Christian and Rori is that if you DO ANYTHING – you tend to push a man away. It’s STOPPING doing all those things, the mistakes, that will bring a man close. It gives him room to move toward us and WANT the relationship if we step away a bit. I’ll keep publishing more of these letters, so please check them all out to see what can help you. Sincerely, Sarah

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