relationshipby Alexandra Fox

Men have an annoying habit of forgetting their commitments – like forgetting to call you when they say they will –  don’t they?

Sometimes they promise to call you up when they get home, but they never do. Fortunately, there’s more you can do about the situation than you think!

There are ways to increase a man’s likelihood — and willingness — to keep his promises, whether it’s as small as calling you up or as big as a committing to a more serious, long-term relationship.

How do you feel whenever a guy promises he’ll call you, but doesn’t?

If you’re like the old me, you may feel tempted to call him up yourself, asking him what he’s up to and why he isn’t calling. After all, he kept you waiting — you deserve at least a straight explanation!

Well, at least that was what I thought when I was still dating. Little did I know that this little knee-jerk reaction was actually RUINING my chances of getting a boyfriend!

Sure, I often got the explanations I wanted. But afterwards, the guys started acting weird around me — like they didn’t really want to be with me anymore.

Of course, now I realize exactly why. In calling them up and asking for an explanation, I was basically NAGGING.

And as you should know by now, the real men out there can’t really stand naggers!

But don’t let me change the topic… today, we’ll be talking about why men have this annoying little tendency of NOT keeping their promises. There’s no single reason why — that’s why in this article, we’ll talk about the three most common reasons.

Reason #1 Why He Didn’t Call You – He’s Being Cruel To Be Kind:

One of the reasons why men promise to call you, but don’t, is simply because they’re being polite.

To be more specific, they DIDN’T really feel it for you when you were talking and when he promised to call.

Of course, he didn’t want to TELL you he didn’t feel it for you. That would be rude. So instead, he made a vague promise, both to satisfy you and to give an excuse to get away from you.

Sure, you can say that it’s pretty rude and immature of a guy to do something like that. And yes, it’s REALLY tempting to let him know that.

But seriously… why would you want to waste time with someone who isn’t really interested in you anyway? Why waste your energy trying to teach him a lesson? It’s pointless!

So when a guy doesn’t call you up, don’t get worked up over it. Let it pass, and keep living your fantastic life like nothing happened.

Reason #2 – He FORGOT To Call You

I remember getting a call from one of my girlfriends last year. I could tell she was pretty worried.

She told me that her boyfriend of three weeks had cut their date short, and promised to call her when he got home. He had told her that he had some emergency work to do.

But he never DID call. And that drove my friend bonkers.

“Why isn’t he calling, Alex?” she wailed. “Isn’t he interested in me? Is he seeing another woman? Should I break up with him before things get any more serious?”

Fortunately, her boyfriend was also an acquaintance of mine. So I gave him a call to check on him.

It turns out that he went home, started working on that emergency project he was talking about, and by the time he finished and submitted it, he was so tired that he fell asleep. By the time he woke up the next morning, he had totally forgotten to call my friend.

It was a totally innocent, harmless mistake. But it almost caused my friend to break up with him! (It was a good thing she called ME up, first!)

So don’t be so quick to judge a guy if he fails to call you up as he promised. If he’s a busy guy — let’s say an emergency paramedic, a police officer, or an architect — then cut him a little slack.

Besides, the REAL men out there have bustling, busy careers. Trust me, you WOULDN’T want to miss out on them simply because you “thought” they were seeing another woman!

Reason #3 – He Didn’t Call You Because He’s A Player

Now here’s a sad reason. Some men are simply players — they meet new women left and right, and they tend to act on autopilot whenever they do.

And yes, sometimes they make these silly promises like “Sure, babe, I’ll call you tonight.”

So if a guy says something like that to you, don’t keep your hopes up. He could just as well have said those very words to the half-dozen OTHER women he met in the past hour.

Besides, when a guy’s a player, it means he’s only in the dating game for the fun of it. He isn’t really ready or willing to handle a serious relationship, even if he says he is.

Trust me, he’s not.

So it’s best not to waste your time on someone so flaky and unsure. Focus on the real men out there, who take their commitments VERY seriously, as they should!

A Better Way To Make Him Keep His Promises

By the way, don’t go thinking that this tendency of not keeping promises is just a guy thing. I’m pretty sure you’ve done it before, too.

Have you ever had a guy you didn’t like hover over you, trying to get your number? What did you do to get rid of him?

If you’re like some of my readers, you may have told him you had to go to the bathroom — and you left the bar.

Or you may have told him to call you at the number you just wrote on a napkin — but it was actually the number to the local nuthouse.

See what I mean? I’m not saying you’ve done these things yourself. What I’m saying is that it’s not a “men-only” thing. Even we women do it too, when we’re pushed to our limits!

So don’t get so worked up over it. There’s a better way to make men to keep their promises, after all!

And that’s simply to make him realize that there’s VALUE in keeping the promises he makes. He should know that whenever he keeps his promises, he feels loved and appreciated.

And it also helps when you come through with your own promises to him, too. When you keep doing things for him, he’ll start feeling obliged to go out of his way for you, too.

And when both of you feel compelled to do things for each other — even the tiniest, silliest favors — then congratulations. You’ve just stumbled upon the recipe for a relationship that can stand the test of time!

To the happiness you deserve,

Alexandra Fox

From LoveRomanceRelationship: Alexandra is the author of the well-loved book “77 Secrets to Make Him Love You” among others. Visit her webpage to find out about her book and learn from more of her fabulous advice about avoiding love mistakes  –>

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