I hear you. Communication with your guy is really, really tough sometimes.
And at times you feel hopeless. And sometimes you might feel helpless to know what to do.
But I’m going to assume that you want to have a deeper connection with your guy. Where problems can be solved more easily and there isn’t a bunch of residual bad feelings afterwards.
You want to trust him.
Here are 5 reasons why you should develop your own emotional intelligence no matter what’s going on with him.
You’ll be able to develop that more loving, more intimate connection with your partner. By getting a deeper understanding of your own triggers and emotions, connecting with him becomes easier.
You’ll be able to avoid many confrontations, and when confrontations happen, you’ll be able to resolve them more quickly, without lingering anger and resentment.
You become a magnet for this kind of person – that someone who wants to be a deep, loving, intimate partner to you. In your love-life, in your career and even with friends, you begin to attract others who are of a like mind.
When you’re dating, you make better choices because you can assess whether the person sitting across from you has that potential. This is a shortcut to ruling out all those Mr. Wrongs earlier in the process.
If you’re already in a relationship, you’ll be able to help your partner improve their emotional intelligence, as you improve yours. And you can begin to create that loving, intimate connection you long for.
While coming face-to-face with our own triggers and emotions can be challenging, it’s always a journey that takes us to a better place – better relationships with ourselves and better relationships with others.
In short, no matter where he’s at, start with you.
Jeffrey Levine is a corporate coach and trained mediator (and Rori Raye’s husband) who works with both men and women to improve their communication, deepen their connection and remove the blocks that keep them from feeling and expressing love. He is the author of “How To Talk To A Man”, which contains invaluable advice, tools and solutions to help you avoid common relationship pitfalls, and clean things up when they go south. “Every moment presents a new choice for you: a decision about what you want – and what you believe you deserve.”