by Jonathon Aslay
Is this the $100 million dollar question or what…
Is he a commitment phobe or emotionally available…?
Does he know what he wants or does he say “when I meet her I will know”?
Let me repeat that, does he know what he wants or does he say “when I meet her I will know”?
Obviously I am speaking of relationship (hey that’s what my coaching is all about) and the question of when is a man ready is a very hot topic.
So here is my quick take…
Men who have a clear path in life in their professional life and their personal life are often emotionally available enough and ready for a relationship. When he has a clear idea of his relationship destination, he can date with confidence and truly court a woman.
Let me repeat that again:
“When he has a clear idea of his relationship destination, he can date with confidence and truly court a woman”.
Now the man who says “when I meet her I will know” well, he might be the romantic type who feels that when cupid’s arrow hits, everything will shift. Now if he is emotionally available, no problem; however, if he is not ready for a truly committed relationship then he might always be looking for the bigger better deal (I call it the BBD)
You have to be careful for the romantic type for he might just be in love with the idea of being in love
What about the man who says “I’m not looking for a serious relationship”
Men who say “I’m not looking for a serious relationship” what the heck does that mean??? What it can mean is I have no clue what I want and I will play the field until I have relationship clarity.
Here is one problem women need to be aware of, a man who doesn’t know what he wants is often emotionally unavailable. This is just dating for mating and do YOU want to be the woman who plays the field with him?
Let me say this, dating is a great way for a man to gain relationship clarity; however, often times you are the transition relationship while he is making up his mind.
So ask yourself these questions during or after the first 3 dates with any man:
Does he really seem to know what he wants in life?
Does he have his act together?
Does he express the idea of relationship in a loving way?
Men who know what they want in relationship show it with confidence and trust me, he will treat you like a lady and not an object.
Men who truly have a relationship destination for “their life” date differently then the man who is just dating to kill time (or satisfy his sexual needs). Imagine meeting a man who expresses relationship as a good thing, rather than “oh by the way, that’s nice”
So here is my challenge for YOU, before you fall madly in love with a man you are dating (especially when there is HIGH chemistry), look within, in your heart of hearts and ask yourself would you answer YES to the above three questions.
If you did, YAY! you might have a KEEPER!
If you did not, you might just want to say NEXT!
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