What You Choose To Focus On In Your Relationship Is What You’ll See

And while we spend our time paying attention to something, there are always things we’re missing.

by Jeffrey Levine

I got to thinking about what we choose to pay attention to – and how it affects our relationships. Especially how what we pay attention to over the long-term affects a marriage, where it’s so easy to “let things slide.”

Throughout the day, there’s so much input coming our way – social media, television, other people – it seems endless.

And because there’s so much coming at us, we’re making choices all day long about what we’ll let in.

We Pay Attention to What We Think Is Important

In our relationships we make the same kind of choices. We choose what we pay attention to in our partner.

And often what we choose to pay attention to is all we’ll see.

What Are You Paying Attention to in Your Partner?

Are you missing something good because your attention is focused elsewhere?

Are you noticing the “slights” and not seeing the good stuff? Or are you in denial about what is actually going on?

What are you paying attention to regarding your kids?

Do you see their gifts or are you focusing on their behavior?

Often we only see what we choose to see…

Be aware of where you choose to focus your attention and what you might be avoiding looking at. It’s only by getting a clear and full picture of our relationship that we can know what to focus on, and how to deepen the connection and intimacy.

Jeffrey Levine is a corporate coach and trained mediator (and Rori Raye’s husband) who works with both men and women to improve their communication, deepen their connection and remove the blocks that keep them from feeling and expressing love. He is the author of “How To Talk To A Man”, which contains invaluable advice, tools and solutions to help you avoid common relationship pitfalls, and clean things up when they go south. “Every moment presents a new choice for you: a decision about what you want – and what you believe you deserve.”

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