Are you online dating? Are you someone who really has trouble meeting people in person, so you think going online to meet people is going to be the right thing for you to do?
Are you one of those profile liars? Oops, I didn’t mean to call you a profile liar so quickly . . . but are you one of those people who write an online profile based on everything you want to be instead of who you actually are?
That is a really bad thing to do. When you do that, you will meet people who are really excited to meet your fantasy version of yourself instead of the real you. You might as well call yourself Superman or Supergirl.
Are you somebody whose Internet persona is 40 pounds lighter, because you want to meet someone and you believe that once you meet people you can convince them that you’re on magical diet that’s going to instantly get rid of 40 pounds off your body? Are you a 46 year old woman who puts that she is 38 years old on her online profile because you believe that men your age won’t want to date you?
Are you one of those men who puts that he is 37 years old (when you are really 47 years old) because you’re stuck on wanting to date 20 year old girls who don’t particularly want to date you? What should you do? Date some women who are in great shape and in your age group!
Online Dating Is Not the Easy Way to Get What You Want
Why don’t you take better care of yourself so that maybe you’ll attract the kind of woman you want? It’s amazing how many men I’ve interviewed who say that they only want to date women who are in great shape, but they themselves have not hit a gym in about ten years.
You get who you are in life. If I didn’t work out, and I was flabby and overweight, I wouldn’t expect my girlfriend to be in great shape because that is not who I would be. Life is a mirror.
If you want someone in great shape, then get yourself in great shape. Want someone who is well-read? Read. If you want someone who wants to travel the world with you, then find someone else who travels.
Life works that way, and it works that way on the Internet as well as in real life. It’s amazing, though, how many men will criticize women’s bodies when their own body looks like it hasn’t seen the inside of a gym in 20 years. If you work out, you will get a person who works out.
You get who you are because it’s all about common interests. I could never be with someone who doesn’t take care of themselves because I would think they were lazy. I can’t be around lazy people because they annoy me.
Then again, if I was with someone who worked out ten times a day, that would also drive me up the wall. I cannot be with the female version of Lance Armstrong. I don’t want to go on a 75-mile bike ride on a Sunday. Maybe a seven and a half mile ride, but 75 miles is not my idea of fun.
The Opportunities of Online Dating
The Internet gives you an opportunity to really describe who you are, so stop trying to find the fantasy version of you and start dealing with the reality version of you. Be proud of who you are. Be proud of your accomplishments . . . just don’t list them all in the first five lines of your profile.
Be careful what you put out there when you’re dating online. If you’re not having good luck dating online, the reason very well might be that you are misrepresenting yourself. If you are then, really, you are not going to get what you want.
Liars never seem to get what they want in life. They always get exposed.
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