by Christian Carter
There are common and often irreversible relationship mistakes that women make with men when they’re dating and in relationships.
Let me ask you, if you wanted to get closer to a man, have him see you as a great person, develop a strong connection, and get him to “open up” with you, then it would makes sense to do and say the things that you know work to create more love and affection, right?
This is the first inclination most women have with men – to do the things that THEY think create love and connection. What if a man did this with you? What if he decided that you worked the way he did, and so he decided to come up to you and start talking about sex, sports, and quickly get close to you physically?
A man might quickly be drawn in by a woman who did these things (not for all the right reasons, of course), but that doesn’t mean he should be trying them with a woman if he wants any kind of success.
In other words, the things that work for you as a WOMAN are not what work for a MAN. Thinking this way couldn’t lead to worse results in dating situations and relationships.
Tons of women use this tactic of what I call “Selfish Love.” They treat a man the way they would want to be treated if they were going to share love and connection with a man.
More Common Relationship Mistakes
Another common mistake women make is taking something that a man says he wants and doing it too much. Women might think that if a little bit is good, then more must be better.
For instance, a man says to you that he likes women who are physical and affectionate. So, you start touching him all the time, grab his hand and hold it everywhere you go, and always stay right next to him. Then what happens? He leaves you for his ex-girlfriend after telling you he feels like you’re too “needy.”
Huh? What’s going on here? This would be kind of like a woman saying, “My favorite food is chocolate” and a man thinking it would be good to feed her chocolate for every meal just because it’s her favorite, or adding chocolate to every single dish he makes for her from now on, and forgetting that 97% of what she eats still needs to be OTHER FOOD.
Let me land the plane for you. Men don’t mean what you think they mean when they talk about what they want and don’t want. And if you take the things men say too literally, you’re going to wind up shooting yourself in the foot. Just be careful not to make these common relationship mistakes.
Note From The Editor:
Christian Carter gives a great commentary on mis-communication between men and women, and how women can better understand what men want in all his free newsletters and reports and videos – get yours here, and learn how to avoid relationship mistakes so you can get the man and love you want.