If you’re finding yourself in the grips of an obsession over wanting to get your ex back, the good news is that you’re not alone.
All over the country there are people suffering from the same condition. They’ve been dumped by someone they love and are finding it hard to let go of that person.
You might not think you’re hung up on the person, but you owe it to your own mental well being to make sure.
There’s A Fine Line Between A Healthy Search To Renew A Relationship With An Ex And Obsession
The moment you cross that line, you’ve taken the road to making your life miserable.
There are actually many ways for you to tell whether you’re taking the road to ruin or whether you genuinely do feel that resuming things with your ex would be a healthy way to go forward.
Generally speaking, your mindset and the first strategies that come to your mind will give you away.
- If you feel the uncontrollable urge to push the issue every time you think about it, chances are pretty good that you are taking the road to ruin.
- If you feel like you can bide your time and develop a friendship with your former lover before taking things back to the next level, you are maintaining a healthy mentality.
Obsession is not only unhealthy, but also unproductive.
- The strategies that you’d think of when you were obsessing would mostly be strategies that had no chance of working.
- The strategies that you’d come up with (like going through friendship) when thinking about building healthy relationships are the ones that really have the chance of working.
No Matter WHAT You Feel, And Especially If You’re Feeling “Obsession” – You Do Not Want To Rush Things With Your Ex
If he broke up with you, he’s going to need to get over the breakup before he can be coaxed back into a relationship.
This is true even if you broke up with him – since it’s hurt rather than distaste that he needs to get over.
The truth of the matter is that you need to give him a lot of time and space at first, then move closer gradually.
It may not be as pretty or instantaneous as you’d like, but it’s definitely going to be the best chance that you have.
The answer to avoiding the pitfalls of obsession and actually GETTING your ex back is simple – and yet challenging.
What you naturally want to do will push him away – so you need to go slow. The moment he experiences you as completely “focused” on him – he’ll back off.
Yeah – it’s tricky to be excited about a man and love him, and still avoid acting needy and desperate. Obsession is definitely something he’ll pick up on – and it’s a place you don’t want to go to.
Strategy doesn’t work with men – because they pick up on “games” – but if “strategy” means for you to step back, take a breath and stop yourself before you overwhelm your ex with your desire to get him back – you have a much better chance of getting what you want.
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