by Christian Carter
Have you ever had a man tell you “I’m not ready for a serious relationship” or “I want my freedom”?
Men say stuff like this all the time to women… but what does it REALLY mean. Do you know what men want when it comes to dating? And what can you do to turn his withdrawal and resistance around, and create more intimacy and connection?
To figure out what men want, here’s the very first thing you need to do-
STOP listening to his words… and start paying attention to what’s really going on at a deeper level inside his heart. Because, as you know, what is shown on the surface is often NOT what is really going on underneath.
Here’s the truth about what men want-
Most men DON’T KNOW WHAT THEY WANT from a woman and a relationship. They just know how they FEEL when they are with a woman, and whether they want more of this feeling or not.
It sounds almost ridiculous it’s so simple, but this is how most men operate when it comes to what men want and WHY they get into relationships and choose one woman over another.
Unfortunately, for the good women who are trying to create a great relationship with a man… and hoping that if they try hard enough to make him happy with them so he’ll stay… this little secret is causing a LOT of pain and frustration, by not knowing what men really want.
The SECRET is that most men DO want a relationship with an amazing woman.
In fact, what men want more than anything is to please the woman they are with. BUT… (and this is an important insight) men want a relationship with a woman who already has about 100 other qualities that a man will never mention and could probably never list or describe even if they were asked to.
Men know what men want when they EXPERIENCE it.
And when a man finally experiences what it’s like to be with the right woman for him, he quickly becomes emotionally involved and not only stops RESISTING a long term relationship… but a man will actually become the one begging his woman for more.
So let me translate for you what men really want…
If a man says to you, “I need to be alone right now”, what he REALLY means is:
“I want a woman who will make me FEEL better when I’m with her than I do in my everyday life as a single man. And I’m not feeling that way with you.”
Or when a man says, “I’m not ready for a relationship”, it doesn’t mean he is somehow unable to have a real relationship.
It usually means that he doesn’t want a relationship with you. The proof of this is how often men tell one woman they’re dating that they’re not “ready”… but then they go on to marry the next woman they meet.
Men are famously unpredictable and seem to make absolutely no sense in this way- until you understand men and what men want.
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I make it easy for you to start to understand for yourself what men want, and to translate this into a fun, lasting and loving relationship where you never have to worry about your relationship suddenly ending again.
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Best of luck in Life and Love,
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