By Jonathon Aslay
It seems like every woman over 20 knows about the four “C’s” of diamond buying:
cut, color, clarity, and carat weight
That’s Engagement Ring 101 stuff, but unfortunately we often miss a more important “C” list:
The Relationship C’s.
Within every great relationship is a curious mix of chemistry, communication, compatibility, character, and continuity that leads to a lasting commitment.
- Chemistry is the initial attraction.
It’s powerful – maybe even irresistible – but it’s not the only thing that matters.
You have to be able to see past chemistry’s lure to the other important components of a lasting relationship.
- Communication is critical for commitment.
There’s no sense building a relationship with someone who can’t or won’t engage in open and honest conversation with you.
- Compatibility ensures you both want the same things in life, physically, spiritually, and emotionally.
Without this, you’ll end up pulling in opposite directions – an exhausting exercise that will leave you feeling drained instead of fulfilled.
- Character describes his values and morals, and they should closely match your own.
Rather than asking if he’s the right man, ask if he’s a good man.
Then you’ll know if his character is a good fit for you.
- Continuity requires that all the pieces of your life work well together – your family and friends, your social activities, your emotional needs, your economic ideals, and your intimate desires.
It’s hard to make a relationship last when one or more of these areas is out of sync.
Like the four C’s of diamond buying, the relationship C’s all fit together to form one beautiful and precious gem.
Like a diamond, some aspects may outshine others.
Your relationship may be strong in communication but lacking in compatibility, and that’s okay as long as you recognize the potential problems and take steps to minimize them.
But if the Five C’s fall short of your standards and leave you with nothing more than a worthless rock, you could be in for a rough ride.
Want to See If Your New Relationship Can Pass the Five C’s Test?
Pick up a copy of Understand Men NOW: the Relationships Men Commit to and Why, for an in-depth look at the five C’s of relationships, and discover what makes men commit – and what makes them turn away.
Now it must seem I talk a lot about these 5 C’s, and quite frankly this is the center of my entire coaching program.
The fundamentals of the 5 C’s might seem easy, yet in practice meeting someone who hits on all cylinders might take some searching… or it does it?
You see it is my belief when you truly know your 5 C’s, I mean really know the essence of YOUR basic desires in a successful relationship…. your Mr. Right will appear rather quickly.
As I said before, my whole coaching program is directly based on these 5 C’s and I receive calls and emails everyday seeking my advice.
Yet, given the economic times and hardship many are facing, setting a private coaching session may seem out of reach.
That is why I create my new ebook.
So, beginning on page 49, you expand your horizons and develop a greater understanding of your 5 C’s without even arranging a session with me.
Now I’m guessing most of you want the same thing….
You want to meet your Mr. Right
You want to do it in the least about of time
Since my belief is that all men are capable of commitment, understanding the commitment ready men is the MOST important part of the story.
That is why if you need to turn to page 90 of my ebook, and YOU will learn about
7 Types of Relationships Men Choose (even the ones who consider the Diamond Ring)
Then when you get to page 98, it ties it all together with the 5 C’s
From The Editors: Jonathon KNOWS the male brain. He coaches women on how to “choose better” when it comes to men, and he has a huge following. We just LOVE him and know you’ll love his free tips, too – so go here to find out how you can succeed in your relationship->