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My marriage has been a little rocky lately and I decided to do some research on how to win back love.
The first thing I learned was we need to learn how to communicate better. How hard could this be really, we used to talk about everything all the time. I am going to follow the tips and steps I learned and start as soon as we both get home tonight. We can cook dinner, have some wine and start talking while we eat.
I learned that I have to be honest with myself and that no matter how much I want my marriage to work I may not be able to save it.
My husband needs to want to save it, too, and be willing to work on everything that needs work.
I can’t do it all by myself and I can’t force him to want to work on it if he really does not want to.
Communicating “Correctly” for Love
I also realized that we don’t have a clue on how to communicate correctly. Sure, we talk, but we don’t really ‘get’ each other most of the time.
So often when I try to tell him how I feel he gets mad and thinks I’m attacking him. I am not trying to attack him in any way, I am just trying to tell him how I feel and express my worries or fears.
I am going to suggest we talk about why we haven’t been getting along lately, and try to get his take on things, too.
He may have a different way of looking at everything that I do and maybe we can compare notes, so to speak, and come up with a good strategy.
It Will Take Time and Work on Both Our Parts but I Want to Win Back Love
Hopefully if dinner goes well we can start to figure out how to spend more quality time together.
I will tell him that I think we should have a date night every week. We get so caught up in the day to day managing of the house we forget we need to just feel connected to each other.
I need to feel in love with him again and stop feeling like we are two people living in the same house. Maybe if we both agree to try to fix what is wrong, maybe we can find our happily ever after.
Then there is the subject of making love.
The research said that if you and he have not made love for some time then one of you needs to seduce the other.
On that note, I bought some sexy lingerie and some patchouli scented oil.
After dinner I will go put on the lingerie, dab on some oil, light some candles, and put on some romantic music, too. Then I will lead him into the bedroom.
If we make these changes starting tonight and maybe, just maybe, we will be able to win back love.