by Helena Hart

If you want to feel confident and empowered from the inside out and become irresistible to men, you want to make sure you’re operating from your CORE – not from this “outer shell” we can build up around ourselves.

This is what will allow you to attract your ideal man, or bring the man you’re with closer than ever.

We can tend to put up walls around ourselves when we don’t trust ourselves and we don’t feel strong and secure on the INSIDE.

If we don’t feel secure on the inside, this outer shell is like a false sense of confidence – and what happens when we build walls around ourselves is no one can truly get close to us.

When this happens, a man might be interested and come on strong for a little while, but if he gets the sense that he can’t get close to you emotionally (if he can’t see who you REALLY are), he’ll eventually give up and start to back off.

We operate from our “outer shell” when we feel a sense of anxiety, insecurity or urgency, when we’re coming from a place of “lack” or staying in a relationship where we’re not getting our needs met because deep down we don’t feel we deserve any better – or we don’t think it’s possible to TRULY get everything we want in a relationship.

Here’s an example: Let’s say you’re with a man and you suddenly feel triggered by something he said or did…

Operating from your “outer shell” would look like attacking or blaming him, holding him responsible for your feelings, or completely detaching and shutting down emotionally. This will make him feel UNSAFE around you on a deep, unconscious level – which weakens the attraction and connection and pushes him away.

Operating from your core would looking like owning your experience, remaining open and expressing how you feel in an authentic way. This is a huge sign of confidence and will actually bring a man CLOSER in that moment when done correctly.

Confidence the “universal attractant” – everyone finds confidence sexy! In order to feel confident from the inside out and become irresistible to men, you need to trust yourself more than anyone else.

When you trust yourself and you feel strong and secure on the INSIDE, you’ll start to be organically led to make decisions that will serve you better than anything else. This is how to start operating from your CORE, rather than an “outer shell” of fear or survival.

Trusting yourself and operating from your core are crucial steps to loving yourself unconditionally and feeling AUTHENTIC confidence in who you are. This is what allows men to feel close to you emotionally, which is incredibly attractive!

At the same time, when you truly know and understand that the right man for you will want to be with you because of WHO you are, you won’t tolerate bad behavior or accept anything less than you deserve.

This strong sense of confidence in who you are will help you become irresistible to men, create and maintain an extraordinary relationship built on connection, commitment and trust, and create a safe space of acceptance and appreciation so your relationship lasts!

Helena Hart is so smart. Her degree in Psychology adds a wonderful array of knowledge to her relationship coaching and advice. She’s turned her own love life around and has amazing tools to help you do the same. Find more about her on her site HERE.

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