What men are actually picking up on with us is often different than what we think.

by Helena Hart

I remember practically “rehearsing my lines” before dates with men I was attracted to – I wanted “prove” to them that I was smart, funny and easy going.

I was going about it in all the wrong ways!

Imagine you’re on a date, sitting across the table from a man. Imagine he’s gorgeous, and you’re experiencing all kinds of feelings with him.

You may be feeling excited – because you feel like you’re connecting with him on so many levels.

You’re probably feeling the urge to “show” him how smart and fun you are – you want him to know that you’re a great catch!

You might be wondering what HE’S thinking, whether or not he likes you, or if you look alright. You want to keep connecting about all the things you have “in common” – AND…

All the man is picking up on is your level of TENSION.

The whole thing he’s experiencing is your VIBE.

Often times, we’re busy thinking about all the things we have in common and that we’re connecting on all these levels – and all he’s thinking is, “I’m not feeling anything here. She’d be a great friend, but there’s nothing romantic going on.”

This is what happens when we’re only connecting from mind to mind.

What you want to do instead is connect with his HEART.

This is where building trust from the moment you start talking to a man will help you tremendously.

Tracking your body will help you release some of the tension you’re feeling. To do this…

1. “Check in” with where you’re holding tension in your body.

Notice if you’re holding tension in your shoulders, your stomach, your legs, or somewhere else – “check in” with every part of your body.

2. The moment you notice tension somewhere, put your hand on that part of your body.

3. “Breathe into” that part of your body and allow the tension to release.

This is often much easier than trying to “relax” your entire body all at once.

4. Notice if the tension moves somewhere else.

For example, you might notice then tension move from your shoulders to your stomach. Start paying attention to this.

5. Follow the tension around your body by repeating Steps 1 – 4.

Try tracking your body this way the next time you’re standing in front of a man.

See if this helps you take your focus OFF of what what he’s thinking, how you look, or if he likes you.

This will shift your vibe and make you incredibly attractive to him!

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As a Certified Life and Relationship Coach with a masters degree in Psychology, author and master coach teacher, Helena Hart helps people all over the world effortlessly attract love into their lives. Whether you’re recently single or you’ve been single for years – or you’re in a relationship that seems to be going nowhere – Helena can help you quickly and permanently turn your love life around. If you’re ready to inspire the kind of deep attraction and devotion that makes a man fall in love and want to be with you forever. “I had to uncover my relationship patterns and deep fear of intimacy in order to figure out what I was doing that was blocking love and great men from coming toward me. When I did this I was able to heal myself and turn things around very quickly!”

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