A Simple Exercise To Make Your Relationship Better

Many of us get bogged down with what we “gotta” do to make a relationship work. by Jeffrey Levine No wonder we feel frustrated and stuck while so much of what we do feels like a chore. We feel angry and resentful because of what we think we have to do. What if we could…

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If You Think Your Marriage Is A Lost Cause, Start Here

“What can I do?,” cried Sharon, “I can’t do anything! I don’t even know where to start! I want to save my marriage, but he refuses to even think about it.” by Lee Baucom, Ph.D. And with that, Sharon launched into a discussion that lasted at least 25 minutes, telling me why nothing could be…

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Is He Being Inconsistent? Read This.

“I started seeing a close friend after we made out one night.” by Evan Marc Katz I had reservations because he was divorced (a year and a half ago) with 2 kids. He would drive hours to see the kids every weekend so that means weekends are off limits for us. I honest to goodness…

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How Softening Yourself Will Transform Your Relationship

The result of a conflict discussion is predetermined within the first few sentences of the conversation. by Jen Michelle John Gottman’s marriage research showed that the likelihood of a couple’s divorce could be predicted by observing just the first three minutes of an argument. His work on couples conflict showed that almost all conflict discussions…

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How To Get Him To Share What’s Going On With Him

Mark was a good husband. He sought professional help because he was thinking of leaving his wife, Linda. by Jeffrey Levine Here’s the scenario: He had not been feeling in love with Linda for a long time, but they had two children and he really didn’t want to break up the family. “Mark,” the counselor…

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If Your Partner Is Avoiding Sex, Read This

In my last post, I talked about controlling behavior. by Lee Baucom, Ph.D. Evidently, this hit a nerve. I received a number of emails that asked me to explain what I meant by “controlling behavior.” Several emails asked me for specific examples, and others told me that they were not the controlling ones, but their…

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How To Avoid The #1 Behavior That Destroys Marriages

How can you save a marriage when a spouse has given up, due to your controlling behavior? Hang in there, and we will explore that question. by Lee Baucom, Ph.D. I hear from people almost everyday, telling me that their spouse has just revealed how angry and hurt they are by the controlling behavior –…

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How To Finally Get Him To Hear You

And you still don’t feel heard?… by Jeffrey Levine If so, you’re probably feeling frustrated. How about, are you making some of the same requests two or three times? Maybe you’ve shared something important to you and there was a change for a few days or weeks, but now he’s returned back to the old…

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