by Virginia Feingold Clark

A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked, “how heavy is this glass of water? “

The answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g.

The lecturer replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it.

“If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem.

If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm.

If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance.

In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”

He continued, “And that’s the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on.

“As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden.

“So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don’t carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow.

Whatever burdens you’re carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can.”

Relax; pick them up later after you’ve rested. Life is short. Enjoy it!

So, what are some good ways to relax and give yourself a break? Here are a few ideas, and though they may seem obvious, sometimes we need to be reminded.

1) Move your body: dance, fly a kite, walk at the mall and window shop, take extra long walks with the dog (if you don’t have one, borrow one, or go to the pound where they always need dog walkers). Do yoga, lift weights, move the furniture, clean.

2) Move your mind: go to the library and browse, visit a museum, go to theatre, watch the grass grow, watch people at a coffee shop, feed birds in a park, meet someone new.

3) Change your perspective: talk to family, talk to a professional, talk to a friend. One of the best cures for stress is to know you are not alone.

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