“How to Get Past His ‘Defenses’ and Quickly Create a More Intimate Relationship and Stronger Family With Your Husband…”
If You’re Enduring a Husband Who’s Not Communicating With You and Needs Help Being a Good Father – I Can Help you Improve Him AND Deepen Your Marriage at the Same Time!
I’d like to ask you a few questions. Be open and honest with yourself as you answer them…
Have you ever felt like your husband is just giving up as a father and a husband? Like he doesn’t follow through on what he says he’ll do and doesn’t pay your family the kind of attention you know it needs?
And what’s even worse – he’s giving YOU way less attention than you deserve… and not listening to you or even talking with you like he used to?
If this is happening to you – I know you’ve done everything in your power to change your situation.
I completely understand your need to change him for the good of your family – and so YOU can be happy, too (the truth is – NO ONE can be happy unless YOU’RE happy).
You may have tried over and over to “gently” and “nicely” ask him to treat you and your children differently, and then quickly found that even asking him nicely has actually made the situation worse.
It’s not your fault.
How To Get Him To Listen To You – Even Though Your Man Would Rather Avoid Challenge, Conflict and Difficulty by Withdrawing Emotionally From You Than Allowing You To INFLUENCE Him!
He KNOWS that what you say is “right”! He KNOWS he’s not doing what he needs to do – and yet, he can’t help himself, and he won’t let you help him.
I can’t imagine anything more painful and frustrating in the world than a man who won’t budge emotionally – and I know – because I’m a man. It’s really, really easy just to withdraw into a “cave” and let YOU handle everything.
And you’ve likely had this happen to you over and over and over again:
The conversation starts off fine, but soon it disintegrates into a discussion that leaves you both feeling bad.In your mind, your intention was good.
You tried to communicate that you think he’s a good man, and that you just had a few suggestions. But for some reason he couldn’t really hear you, and instead got defensive…
Have you ever started a conversation with your husband about your marriage and family, and things start going so well that you felt comfortable enough to keep sharing? And you start to get a sinking feeling in your stomach?
Because you knew it probably wasn’t a good idea to bring up all those other things. And then the thing you KNEW would happen actually happened: he got angry and he shut down.
If this hasn’t happened to you, you’re in a rare situation, and you don’t need me.But, in my experience – men shut down all the time. And they do it when you least expect it, and when you LEAST want him to shut down.
It’s hard to stop yourself when this feels like your one chance to get your point across. Probably – every moment he actually turns to listen to you feels like your last chance to communicate things that have been building up.
Still, from experience, you know that if you try to keep the conversation going, it probably won’t end well… but you do anyway – you TRY anyway – because it’s so IMPORTANT. And it is.
And that’s why I want to help you. IT IS so important that YOU be happy. That you feel you can TALK to your husband. And, if you have children – it’s CRUCIAL for you to feel like you have PARTNER – not someone who drains your energy and makes it harder for you to make a good, peaceful, happy family.
And finally, you get some “alone” time with your husband, and you feel there’s so much at stake, like this:
Has This Happened to You: You have a wonderful evening planned, and then something happens with you, or with the kids, and he overreacts?
And there’s nothing you can do about it. Everything you try to say or do just makes him more defensive and makes it all worse.
And you find yourself torn. If you choose to say something, you could jeopardize the mood for the evening, but if you don’t, you end up holding all your feelings inside and it feels horrible.
It’s not fair. You didn’t ask for this. It just showed up, and now you feel damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.
I’m guessing that when some of these things happen, your girlfriends say things like:
“Oh, I know exactly what you mean. My husband does the same thing, but I’ve learned to live with it.”
Or they said: “If you know he’s screwing up, you just have to tell him. He needs to learn how to deal with it.”
And while on some level you agree with them, you don’t like what it’s doing to your marriage.
And even worse, you worry that these problems might have something to do with YOU, or how you said what you said, (and not just because he’s “screwing up” or “getting defensive”).
In fact, TO THIS DAY you probably can still remember some big fight you both had where you’re sure that YOU did something wrong, and that you may have CAUSED the problem in the first place… and if you would’ve known the RIGHT thing to do, things would’ve turned out differently…
Unfortunately, the bad news is that you’re probably right.
Chances are you DID have something to do with causing the problem, and things probably WOULD have turned out differently if you would’ve known how to deal with the situation. Only – it’s not your fault – because there’s no WAY you could have known what would have worked!
Women just simply aren’t taught anywhere what actually WORKS to bring you close to a man (movies, school, home life teaches just the opposite – things that DON’T work!).
Yes, you COULD have done something to change the situation and get a much better, happier result… if only you had known WHAT to do…
The Secret To Giving Him The Help He Wants And Is Willing To Hear…
The main PROBLEM here, and the thing that stood in your way, is that men work differently for women – and so they AREN’T easy to understand. We’re actually pretty simple and easy – but not in the way that a woman can “intuit.” Even worse, men don’t come with an “instruction manual.”
Just because your friends told you that you were “right” (you likely WERE RIGHT). or that he’s just “being a jerk” (he likely WAS being a jerk), doesn’t mean that they understood the problem (or that they understand men – and men who are fathers – at all).
Your friends who try to comfort and encourage you have good intentions. They’re just trying to make you feel better.
But they’re also accidentally making the situation WORSE.
They’re trying to blame the situation on HIM, instead of trying to help YOU understand how to HELP him, in the way he can hear you.
This situation is MOST dangerous when you’re CERTAIN that you know what needs to happen and this appears to be the PERFECT time to tell him. But in truth, you don’t really know HOW to express it in a way he can hear it – in a way that’ll truly help him be a good husband and father.
Let’s face it, you married him because he’s a great guy… and now that you’ve got him, you can’t afford to keep sabotaging the relationship by making the same mistakes, over and over.
You can’t afford to be constantly fighting, for years… or even LONGER… and risk ruining your marriage… just because you don’t have the right information to know how to handle these challenging situations.
Well, there’s some good news here… I personally believe that there IS something you can do about it.
You CAN learn how to understand how a man works and how to get your husband to hear and understand you. You can learn how to TURN him into a better husband and father – and make your marriage better and deeper at the same time.
And how do I know this?
Because I AM a man – and I’m a man who’s a father. I’ve been on the receiving end of all the situations I just told you about…(and many others as well).
I’ve seen these challenges from a man’s perspective. I’ve been in those difficult “places” in parenting, communicating, and love.
After years and years of experiencing these types of situations and hearing about them from my friends, I decided to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT…
I spent well over a year carefully documenting and writing about my experiences. I spent much of that time researching, interviewing men and men who’re fathers, and working out all the ways a woman can get what she wants from her husband without jeopardizing the relationship… and without stuffing down her own feelings and needs. In fact – in ways that make your marriage BETTER.
As a mom – you’re under an incredible amount of pressure from all sides, and you HAVE to get your needs and the needs of your family met. If you DON’T get these needs met – how will they ever get met? It’s a challenging job to begin with – and if your husband is not partnering you the way you need, it can be painful and difficult.
Here’s what I discovered:
The 3 Deadly Mistakes You’re Likely making With Your Husband Without EVER Realizing It…
» Mistake #1: Pointing Out To Your Husband What He’s Doing “Wrong”
Did you know that your husband has a “Defense Mechanism Thermostat” and when it kicks on, it causes him to shut down immediately?
Sadly, even conscious women often “accidentally” set off a man’s “thermostat”… and kill the chance of a meaningful conversation.
The quickest way to set off his thermostat is to point out to him how he messed up. YOU might consider it constructive criticism. HE hears that you are accusing him of screwing up. And this is the quickest way to shut him down, cutting off any chance of progress.
Chances are that too often you try “be specific” to help your husband improve in the hopes that it’ll translate into a healthy working relationship and get you both what you want. In reality, he doesn’t have the capacity to view your helpful suggestions as anything more than criticism and it requires a special set of skills to communicate parenting ideas in ways that don’t make him feel that you don’t trust him.
Before I show you how to do that, let’s talk about mistake #2:
» Mistake #2: Assuming Your Husband’s Needs Are Similar To Yours
Many women make the mistake of thinking that men are just bigger, hairier women… and you might think that you can appeal to him by addressing the needs that are important to you.
Your husband is motivated by very different things than you – many of which you may find hard to understand. By not addressing his needs, you’re sabotaging the conversation from the word go, without even realizing it.
But when you understand and then tend to his needs – which can be done very easily and simply, without surrendering your own needs – you’ll be free to discuss anything and everything.
In a moment, I’ll show you how you can learn to do just that…
» Mistake #3: Misinterpreting Your Husband’s Readiness to Discuss Family Problems
My guess is that there are times that you start a relationship or parenting conversation with your husband because you’re experiencing a very strong EMOTION.
Yes, your feelings are important. But they can also be DANGEROUS.
When we experience a strong feeling, it can cause us to override our logic and ignore what we know… leading us to overreact in ways that cause immediate problems as well as spell trouble down the road. It’s something we all do.
If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a cycle of unproductive conversations with your husband that continually lead to arguments, this is probably why.
It’s important to be able to know WHEN to start these conversations and spot any “warning signs” of a conversation that is about to go bad, FAST… so you don’t waste any of your time or emotional energy on a conversation that will only MAKE THINGS WORSE.
Fortunately this is a fairly easy thing to do, and I’d like to show you how…
Here’s How To Improve Him As a Husband and Father While Also Deepening Your Relationship…
Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to talk with him about the way he fathers your children, and the way he treats you, and at the same time get closer to him – enjoying more intimate moments?
Would you like to learn how to navigate a challenging conversation with your husband with confidence, clarity and your kind heart… and never again have to stuff down what you have to say, for the “sake of the relationship”?
Are you tired of walking on eggshells around him because you aren’t clear how not to set him off?
Do you want to break out of the destructive cycle of first feeling like you need to say something, then saying it, getting an angry or “shut down” reaction, giving up on feeling like you can get through to him, and then once again getting to that place that you have to say something… and realize after years that you’re wasting precious time while your children and your relationship are paying the price?
Do you ever find yourself wondering if you picked the wrong guy, and that maybe there are men out there who “get it”?
Is the communication with your husband right now “difficult”… because he doesn’t listen to you about family issues, ask your advice about parenting, or make the changes he said he would… and you’d like a fast and easy way to get through to him in a way that he not only hears you, but appreciates you for what you say and how you say it?
If you answered, “YES” to any of these questions, I have some great news for you…
I’ve put together what I like to think of as a “Man Manual” that literally ANY woman can use to help her help her husband be the father of her children that she always dreamed she would marry.
Your “Secret Weapon” For Success With Your Husband
My book is called “The Good Husband Guide – Make Him a Better Husband and Father”
I believe that if you learn how to understand “man psychology” and you learn how to handle a few key specific situations, that you can turn him into the parenting partner of your dreams, and then deepen your own relationship with him.
In my new book, I’m going to take you by the hand, and show you step-by-step how to easily get through to him in a way that he can hear you – loud and clear.
I’ve decided to publish my book only online in “electronic” format, so you can download it right now, and be reading it within just a few minutes…
I’m not an accomplished author, so this book will have some flaws. If you read for literary quality, it might not be for you.
But if you’re looking for the real… the genuine… no B.S. ways to shift a difficult man into a real, parenting partner, as well as get what you want out of your relationship with him – and at the same time – avoid any of the traps and mistakes that could cost you a lifetime of stuffed feelings and disappointment, this could be the most important book you’ll ever read.
The Secrets Your Husband WISHES You Knew – But Doesn’t Know How To Tell You…
When I set out to write this book, I made it my mission to find what REALLY works when it comes to parents successfully working together to create a happy, thriving family… and discover exactly how a woman could make that happen, even without her husband knowing exactly HOW she’s doing it.
I interviewed dozens of parents… and I discovered some VERY interesting things…especially from the women who felt comfortable enough to open up about their frustrations.
So I started off by talking with women I knew who had very successful and happy families.
Not surprisingly, I started to notice some common things…
I noticed that there’re some distinct things these women do consistently to make their husbands want to change their behavior, without ever trying to force them to change.
Each one of them also had a unique, yet simple and accurate way of instantly “sizing up the situation”… so they NEVER wasted time trying to have a conversation that he isn’t ready to have. (Several of these methods actually got dad to open up in ways that totally surprised her).
They also had a way of handling conflicts, important situations, and “challenging talks” that was VERY DIFFERENT from what most men are used to participating in (This method instantly puts a man at ease by creating a “security umbrella” that makes him feel safe and willing to actively listen to you).
Why Your Husband Will Be Open to Suggestions Some Times And Not Others…
This book wouldn’t be complete without the inside “dirt” from us MEN.
I made it my mission to track down dozens and dozens of the “cream of the crop”… the couples that really “clicked” as parents and I got them to reveal “hows” and “whys” they themselves had never considered…
Not surprisingly, many of the dads I talked to actually could tell me what their wives do that shut them down… and how, over the years they had learned to cope, and deal with their frustration.
Some of them explained how their wives had learned to shift her approach toward him and the incredible difference this made in their parenting, and in how close they felt to each other.
And most importantly… I got them to reveal the successful techniques these unusual moms were using that actually create “good feelings” in the home.
While I feel I can always improve as a dad and as a husband, I’ve been very fortunate in my life that my wife and I were very “in-sync” regarding our family… but staying open and receptive when listening to criticism can still be a challenge…
So of course when I put this book together I looked back over the many years we have been parenting together (our daughter is 20)… and figured out exactly what my wife did differently than the other women whom I’ve interviewed, coached and heard about through their husbands.
I lay it all out for you here… and I hold nothing back.
The bottom line is this:
Some women know secrets that other women do not.
Some seem to know them “instinctively”, while others figure them out over time.
I’ve compiled these secrets in my new eBook, and I’m really looking forward to sharing them with you.
This is the only book of its kind… and you won’t find these secrets anywhere else.
Inside are the secrets every man who’s a father WISHES his wife would know… and they’ll bring affection, family closeness, peaceful dinners, and love to all who learn them.
Here Are Some Of The Secrets You’ll Learn Inside My Informative eBook
- The inside scoop on what’s REALLY going on inside your husband’s mind, including the things he doesn’t want you to know (He’ll think you’re a psychic when you do exactly the right thing in every situation)
- The big mistake moms make when starting a “talk” about parenting that is guaranteed to make things WORSE than they already are… and what to do about it
- A simple way to get your husband to understand what you’re saying that makes him want to do whatever it takes to improve
- A simple 3-step method for approaching him that actually makes him feel closer to you with each step of the process, AND gives you the information you need to keep him from getting defensive
- The BIG SECRET all happy parents share that unhappy and struggling parents never realize until it’s already too late (You can use this to solve almost any challenge in your relationship and keep things going on the right track)
- How moms who are “naturally” good with their husbands handle important situations and conflicts (The answer may surprise you, but it’s something you MUST know in order to create the family-life you envision)
- A way to let a man know that you believe in him and make him want to take your advice… and it doesn’t involve any weird “manipulation” or bitchy “tricks”
- How to make your husband get “on board” and work toward creating a loving and collaborative future rather than focusing on protecting himself
- How your emotions can deceive you into overreacting to situations when your mind KNOWS the right thing to do – and how to actually DO that
- The 3 things every mom MUST do before she can have a communicative, collaborative and loving relationship with her husband (skip any one of these and you run the risk of ruining your marriage)
- The ways your husband screens incoming messages, and how to make sure you get heard
- 2 connection-killing mistakes that flip dad’s defense mechanism thermostat and send hopes of a constructive conversation tumbling downhill
- How to break the seemingly never-ending cycle of painful conversations, FAST and FOREVER
- The Secret Of “The Security Umbrella” – A powerful way to make him interested in your parenting advice and eager to make the changes you request
- A way to handle a potentially difficult situation before it gets out of hand, that actually makes him feel BETTER toward you than before it happened
- And much, much, much more…
Can You REALLY Learn This Stuff In A Book?
When I first put “The Good Husband Guide” out there for women to read, I was honestly nervous.
I knew the information was fantastic and I’d done my homework, but would women be able to actually use it to find and attract the man they always wanted?
The responses I’ve gotten have been more than worth all the time and energy spent. Hear what people are saying and the great results women have had after reading and using this brand new information…
Riley K. Smith, M.A., MFT, Marriage and Family Therapist (Co-author of How To Be A Couple And Still Be Free, Los Angeles, CA
I have read the book twice now! I have a few more wrinkles from not sleeping, but I also have my peace, power and integrity back. The book is truly empowering … I thought that just because we love each other, communication would be easy. Well not so, since the man I’m married to isn’t on the same wavelength and this is where your book is so valuable…”
Claire M., Salinas, CA
Hey, what you said in your book sounds like you’re a fly on the wall when my husband and I argue about parenting. He’s been distant and it’s just like you talked about – I really felt powerless because of the reasons you explain in your book, but I know he’s a good man and could be a great dad. I always thought I was great at communicating but now after reading what you said about a man’s mind and how to talk to him I feel much more confident about our future.” Deanna L., Austin, TX
So far the things that you have written in your ebook especially about triggering his defenses have helped me tremendously with understanding my husband’s moods instead of taking it so personally like I have done so often in the past. Simple misunderstandings can destroy a woman’s self esteem and confidence – and then her parenting skills go out the window. Thank you so much for de-mystifying your gender’s behavior.” Karen R., Buffalo, NY
“The Good Husband Guide contains practical, valuable, easily incorporated tools to bridge the gap between ‘communicationally-challenged’ couples. A great first step!”
Laura Arnold, M.A., LMFT, Specializing in Couples, Los Angeles, CA
This was like a god send for me but I still wish I got this book a month ago. Then I could have saved myself from the stuff we just went through. I was just dealing with some of the things you talked about in your book on how to best begin these kind of talks. I was having the hardest time figuring out what to say and how to get started that I just didn’t do anything – and then blew up at him. I’ve tried your ideas and so far things have been a lot better… probably also cause I’ve calmed down a lot. Now I can let him know what I feel & think and it’s so much better. Thanks Jeffrey! I’ve told all my mommy friends that they need to read Turn Him Into A Better Dad!” Meg C., Miami, FL
My goal in writing this eBook was to help make life better for you and your family.
If you’re looking to have your husband be the father you want him to be, this book will show you how to help him do that… and show him that he can trust you to help him be the dad he is fully capable of being.
If you’re looking across the room at your husband and feeling disappointed, and you’re unsure of what to do, this book will show you exactly how to take things in the direction YOU want his parenting to go… naturally and comfortably – in a way that will improve your marriage.
You Can Turn Things Around…
The information in this eBook will save you years of heartache, struggle and wasted energy. Most moms go through their entire lives never able to affect how their husbands parent. But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Will it work for everybody?
Of course not.
But let me ask you this: What if this knowledge helps you avoid just ONE family argument? Just ONE.
Or what if it helped you turn around a normally difficult or challenging dinnertime?
What would that be worth to you?
Now ask yourself: What if there’s even a chance that this book can actually teach you how to talk to your husband so that he truly wants to hear what you have to offer about his parenting? What if you really can turn him into a better dad and finally experience that family harmony that you now only fantasize about?
How much would that be worth to you? A hundred dollars? A thousand? More? For most people I know, it would be priceless.
Just the POSSIBILITY of creating this kind of special family relationship would be worth the investment.
I know that when that time comes for you, you’ll look back on this moment and be glad you made this investment in yourself.
This much is for sure: Your husband is parenting your children right now… and there’s no better time than right now for you to make sure you both are on the same page about how to do this.
The question is, do you know exactly what to do and say to take things in the direction you know is right? Or are you going to let this opportunity slip by and hope that things get better?
Do want to even consider the chance that you’ll be frustrated and be saying “If only I had…” and never get the help and answers you need. Or do you want to get this area of your life IN CONTROL and learn what works – so you can work with your husband to create the family that you both envision?
I have one final thought to share with you.
After studying behavior for many years, I know one thing: If you don’t make the decision to get this part of your life handled right now, there’s a very very small chance that you’re going to do anything about it in the future… and a very good chance you’ll be having the same kind of “dead end” conversations forever…that will slowly but surely sour and then end your marriage…
Because I want as many moms as possible to benefit from the insights contained in this book, I’ve decided to price it at just $19.97.
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When you get the book, scan it a couple of times and read the parts that jump out at you right away-then go back and read it cover to cover. This is possibly the most important investment you’ll ever make in your married life. I assure you that you’ll be able to use the things that you’ll learn in my eBook to drastically improve your husband, in a way that he can hear and appreciate.
Read the book from cover to cover and you’ll find strategies you can use RIGHT AWAY to change for the better how you relate to your husband through challenges. I promise.
I truly want to help you “teach” and “influence” him to be a better husband and father. I get emails every day from women who are using these materials to DRAMATICALLY shift how they talk with their husbands, and I want to help you too.
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Have you ever really thought about what your IDEAL family life will be like?
Will you have the parenting partner and peace in your home life, while growing closer to a wonderful man who cherishes you?
Will he listen to you, make you feel heard, and respect your needs and your feelings?
Will he commit to raising your children in a way that everyone in the family feels good about?
Will you deepen your emotional bond with him… and be the one he opens up to and looks to for support, inspiration, and help?
I want to see this all happen for you. But it’s up to you to take the next step.
Click the button below, and get started with this information now.
It’s time for you to finally make all of your dreams come true.
Wishing you the very best in life and love,
Jeffrey Mark Levine
P.S. The information in this book is designed to help you make him a better husband and father. Whether you want to completely shift his “style,” or simply want to tweak some of his “bad habits,” this book will help you. Remember, you have a 100% satisfaction guarantee, so it’s completely risk-free.