Do you feel heart-broken right now?
Do you feel that the man you love so much has betrayed your trust, your love, and everything in the relationship?
Has he made a terrible mistake and is now begging to come back to you?
Do you have serious doubt whether you should forgive him?
Are you struggling between moving on with your life and letting him come back?
Does part of you still deeply love him and want to be with him?
If you have any of the above questions, this will be one of the most important articles you will ever read…
Before deciding to give him a second chance, there are 3 critical factors you must consider.
Ladies, see, here is the thing: you should forgive as best as you can, but you must learn to protect your own heart. Making the wrong decision about a man that will lead to heartbreaks is one of the most cruel things a woman can do to herself.
Don’t make that mistake.
Here are the 3 factors you must consider:
#1: Did He Cheat?
A man who has cheated on you should be left alone without any doubts.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Men who cheat will tell you all kinds of things such as “it was just a one-time thing,” or “I won’t do it again.” Many times, he will even try to put the blame on you and make you feel that you’re the source of the problems.
Don’t listen to those excuses. Research has shown that men who have cheated once will cheat again.
The fact is that some men are aroused by doing something forbidden and wrong. It excites them. Every time his relationship starts to stabilize, he will seek out other women just because he needs the stimulation.
Save yourself some trouble and say No to cheating men.
#2: Why He Wants to Get Back?
Another factor you want to consider is why he wants to get back with you.
Is it because he wants to have something he can’t have? Is it because he still loves you?
If it’s latter, you can consider taking him back.
However, this time around, he needs to prove his love to you. Let him pursue you, impress you, and win you back.
If he truly loves you, he will do whatever it takes to get you back. If not, it’s a sign that he just wants to see if he can get a “friend with benefits” situation set up and have an on-again-and-off-again relationship.
Also, don’t have sex with him or go back to the old way until he has fully proven himself.
You don’t have time for any games.
#3: Can You Forgive the Past?
If a man has put in tremendous efforts to win you back and has truly touched your heart, now is the time you need to think about how likely it is you can forgive the past.
See, the relationship won’t work out, if you can’t forgive him.
If you do decide to take him back, you need to make a decision to zip up on the past. That’s the only way to have the relationship succeed.
Think of it as a bump on the road. You went past it and it’s time to move forward…
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