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  1. vicki on June 16, 2011 at 6:00 pm

    Me and my ex broke up 5 mounths ago and im still so in love with him. WE ARE STARTING TO TALK NOW. wHAT CAN I DO OR SAY TO GET HIM BACK.
    PLEASE
    THANK YOU,
    VICKI



  2. natasha on July 21, 2011 at 10:22 pm

    Hi.

    My ex sent me this. I need your opinion. We have an 8 mth old daughter together. I really miss him.

    Honest advice would be appreciated.

    tashie x

    What do you reckon about this.

    Thank u for the present.

    I am sorry for the way I talked to you.

    Now I think u know what makes me upset.

    Try to control urself and relax. Control your emotions, because the way u doing is pushing me away even more.

    Give me time to think please.

    I need time to myself to find me again. I have to concentrate at work.

    U r being obsessive please try to control urself ok.

    In the mean time you can improve urself, find urself and think about whats wrong and whats right.

    Lets see how it goes please. If we r meant to b 2ghetherwe will b toghether.

    Please work out in urself.

    C u..



  3. tina on October 26, 2011 at 10:48 pm

    I told my crush that I like him when I saw him across from my house visiting his friend. my crush said he thought I was very pretty and that he had to come back to my town later on that same night. He seemed to be shocked by me telling him I liked him. I got the vibe something was off about him at that moment. I asked him if he felt the same and he said yes. I then asked if he had a girl friend and he said “well yeah I sort of do” and told me to come into his job when he would be working. I told him no and walked away. He started to come on my street more and more some times two or three times a week and twice a day, but never knocked on my door. Three weeks later I had to go into his job for something and he had to help me. During that interaction he said “I would never do that to you my darling” (he wouldn’t charge me a fee is what he was talking about). He has never called me “my darling” before and was always professional when dealing with me. I did not say anything back although I wanted to. I just left. Now two months have past and I never see him any more and he does not come on my street as much. I later found out that he has a young child with his girlfriend and they live together. Did he ever like me or was he just willing to cheat based on this story? I still like him, but I do not trust that he is fully committed to his lady. Did I jump to conclusions thinking all he wanted was an affair or could this have turned into something more?



  4. Alberta on November 8, 2011 at 1:05 pm

    I had a clash with my husband which led to my calling police and going for separation cos he abandoned I and his three kids alone without food, call, cloth, school for the kids and shelter. All these was a planned deal between him and his sisters. I was too obedient to him and caring not to him alone but also to his family I opened up myself and even displease myself to please him. But all these was taking for granted. Now that all these scene happened he came back begged and I forgave him and took him back but I don’t know if he still loves me for real or I he pretending. Though he has started providing for the family but still leaves me to travel. All his family member are against me no. What do UFO.



  5. sushmitha on November 11, 2011 at 9:08 am

    my close frnd of mine want to hav sex with me but we r not in any kind of relation other than to be frnds should i really hav sex with him?



  6. Adam Hollman on February 11, 2012 at 7:20 am

    this guy has been nothing but a jerk to me, I want to be supportive, but at the same time I do not want any unncessary conflict with the ex-boyfriend……



  7. zan on February 19, 2012 at 2:17 am

    My partner and I split 4 months ago after being together for 3 years. We met at ouir workplace which is in a remote location and has high stress. The last year of our relationship was long distance as he wanted out of the workplace and didn’t want me to come with him. He didn’t want to split up he wanted space. We had our long distance relationship going well for 7 months seeing each other for a week a month. However then things were stressful and he wasn’t happy. He wanted space and didn’t want to have to think about me, or hear about my work (his old workplace). He didn’t have a job all year and was quite depressed and lost.

    After a month we split he would text or email to say hi and had to come up on work business. We spoke and he said he still loved me, wasn’t looking for anyone else as he realised what a good relationship we had, he just needed space.

    I saw him in December before flying out to India. He was a bit more distant but not by much – he wanted to see me before I flew out and arranged our meeting. He asked if i was exciting about my up coming holiday and I said yes and it will be good to purge him out of my system.

    Whilst in India (at a yoga retreat) he sent me a parcel, emailed me, told me he mssed me. i explained to him via email if his emails were coming from a plutonic stance to leave them till i got back home, if there were coming from a place acknowleging he had feelings for me he could continue emailing. He did for a few more days, reminicisingour relatinship etc and then nothing for 1 month.

    One week before coming back home he emails to say hi, emails me for my birthday, textes me and then comes up with a whole series of ideas of catching me up between my fligths home – only if i wanted. I said ok and we spent three hours hanging out between my flights. He put his arm arond me whilst walking, he tried to hold my hand and kissed me.

    I was spun out. I get home and he skyped me to see if I was ok, calls me the next night and then today. I finally called hom back today o chat – all seems as usual. I mentioned in the conversation I was spun out by his actionsat the airport and he was silent – I said I will leave that one for you to figure out. We chatted well – he hinted about coming to the place where I have my next meeting for a catch up – but no committment – talked about how he was going out – but with friends not with anyone else.

    Sorry about how long winded this is – but I am very confused. Is he interested in me again, or can’t he let me go untl he finds someone else, or is he someone who will never commit?

    Please help!



  8. linda on July 13, 2012 at 5:51 am

    hi Christian,

    how are you, i am a young lady who is in this friendship with a guy of my choice we have been friends for sometime now. the early stages of our friendship he made me aware that he has no fillings for me, i withdraw a little but still kept the friendship going. After sometime the friendship grew stronger and he made me aware again that he has strong feelings for me but the only issue is that the holy spirit hasn’t spoken yet.

    I am believing God that he will speak because he is my true desire.
    please what do i do.



  9. Brandy on October 26, 2012 at 2:58 am

    Hi there. I just turned 40 yet feel 30 and yet while i been married and divoreced 2 times, i think I have been totally 100 % inlove once. I know so. My ex (whom i was 100% inlove with and still am) and I got together in January ’07 and made our commitment to eachother on valentines day, 07. We had the most romantic evening i have ever had and i have cherrished it since. At the time, i was going to be possibly adopting my nieces baby in May of 07. The baby died at birth 2 days before my ex’s bday while he was on det in San Diego. So, he took the next avail. flight back to be with me and since it was his b’day however sad and depressed i was i took him to the mountains and brought him to dinner. He broke things off with me that day. So, for the last nearly 6 years we have been still talking and always seem to get back to spending time together but we never get back together. I don’t know what to do. Its been over a year since he moved away cause of his job, he didn’t think a long distance relationship would work but now that he is no longer with the girl he got with 3 months after moving there, he wants me to fly over there. (on my dime) which is over 2300 miles away r/t. I do love him and am willing to do whatever it takes but i can’t do it solo. I do feel like if 2 people love eachother they WILL do WHATEVER IT TAKES to stay committed. I just don’t know why he wants to see me. He said he wants to see how we get along before we take the step of sharing time during holidays which we never have spent one x.mas together yet. he wants to see how we do. I am down for that but i am scared he will find some reason not to work on this when its time for me to go home. Seems like each time its time for either of us to leave we both get moody and start pushing eachother away, i think its seporation anxiety. When he left a year ago, it was the first time i have ever heard “I LOVE YOU”. I haven’t heard it since. I know he does and i have known it for years, but what can i do that i haven’t already done? I have tried and tried i am just stuck. I have a 14 year old son and I don’t want him to grow up thinking that when he leaves for military i will be alone and stuck in this life. I don’t want him growing up to always push people away like me. So, what can I do to make him open up what he truely wants from me and more importantly with me. Does he see a future and if not why cause we have made it 6 years when i asked him that last time when we broke up in 2007, here we are 6 years later still trying to make it work. Please help me cause i leave for his place 2400 miles away on the 1st of October 2012. I don’t want to go blind.

    Thanks for all you do for us out here. I do so much appreciate it.
    God bless.

    Brandy



  10. melissa on August 16, 2015 at 7:39 pm

    I need some help….

    I messed up my 14 year relationship with my love of my life. and I’m trying to win him back to my heart. he says he loves me but he cant. do you think there is hope If I turn everything I do wrong back to good and show him how much I love and care for him. would that work? hes leaving for a week. and told me not to bug him. huh? should I still send him something from me everyday. text or email. or should I give him that space? hes actually talking to another girl so that is not fair. right? help me I really love this guy. being away from him could give me a heart attack. (for real)