by Alexandra Fox
Have you had one relationship after another – like a series of relationships?
Have you been in a good relationship only to have him stop loving you? Have you heard phrases like “It’s not you, it’s me”, “I have fallen out of love”, or “It’s just not working out” from a man?
Do you feel you have a good handle on your relationship or does it feel like it is on the edge of spinning out of control? Have you found yourself questioning what you did wrong in a failed relationship?
Are you in a good relationship now, but are afraid that you might do something to make him stop loving you? Do you know how to rekindle his love if he stops loving you? Are you ready to live the rest of your life having your man love you?
My Relationship Story
I will never forget…
It was a cloudy Friday afternoon and I was home by myself. My relationship wasn’t going amazing, but it wasn’t really going sour either. I never expected what happened would happen to me.
My boyfriend had been on a three day business trip. He called to let me know he wouldn’t be coming home for another three days. It wasn’t that his business trip had been extended, but rather that he “needed some time away.”
Throughout the conversation I heard many of the phrases that so many others had heard before me.
“It isn’t you, it’s me.”
“I just need some time to figure things out.”
“I have to find myself again.”
Needless to say that three days turned into two whole weeks. Each time he called he would say the same thing and tell me it wouldn’t be much longer.
The calls got shorter and he kept telling me that he was really busy, but wouldn’t tell me with what he was busy with. Then that last call came in. He wasn’t coming back. He “had fallen out of love.”
This phrase alone hit me like a ton of bricks. Why didn’t I see this coming? What did I do wrong?
From there on out I was determined that no man would ever fall out of love with me again. I would do whatever I needed to in order to keep him loving me.
Secrets To Keeping Your Relationship:
While it has been a long process to discover the secrets that would keep a man loving me, I have done it. I have been with my man for years now! It isn’t easy, but these secrets really do work! What’s great is that they will work for you too.
So, today, I want to share some of them with you. Are you ready :)
Secret #1: Share the control.
Modern times have given women a lot more power and many are known for “wearing the pants” in relationships. However, this can cause a lot of resentment in men. Instead of you controlling the relationship or him controlling the relationship, you need to work hard to share the control.
You want both of you to share it. This means that each of you have responsibilities and that neither of you “bosses the other around”. It is important that you work hard to make sure that he feels like he still has control in his life.
If he feels like you are controlling him the negative feelings will grow and he is likely to start thinking negatively about you. All this negativity will only lead to more issues later on down the road.
Secret #2: Meet his needs.
While not every man has the exact same needs, most of us need very similar things in a relationship. You can work on meeting his basic needs as well as his more personalized ones.
First you should make sure that you are working on building a friendship. Friendships take work and even after you have developed one, you want to work on keeping the friendship healthy. You want to support him in his hobbies, his interests, and his job.
But it doesn’t end there. You also need to support him in his dreams and hopes for the future. Some need encouragement, others need to have reassurance that they are loved, and still others need someone to talk to.
It is important that you are friends so that you have a firm emotional bond. It is this bond that will support the relationship when times are hard. While no one wants times to be difficult, there will be times when things become a struggle. The friendship is what will help your love hold on through the storms of life.
You will go far in keeping his love by meeting his needs, being there to support him, and becoming his best friend.
Secret #3: Make him feel special.
It isn’t enough to be with someone and to love that person. If you want them to feel your love then you need to work on making them feel special. You can do this in a number of different ways. However, it should always include loving him for exactly who he is …. with all of his faults!
Try not to change him. Instead, make him feel special and loved by letting him know he is exactly what you want and need.
You can also make him feel special with small romantic gestures. Many women think of romance as the man’s job and they often think that it needs to be expensive. However, you too can be romantic and go a long way to showing him that you love him and that he is special.
You can dress up and make some nights special for him letting him know that you care, love him, and think he is worth it. You can take the time to prepare a special meal, go somewhere you wouldn’t otherwise go, and do something you might not normally do.
Take an interest in his hobbies and interests. Have him teach you about them! These things are sure to make him feel special.
Another thing that you can do to make him feel special is to give him some space. Many guys long for guy time, nights out with the boys, and other things that relationships often rob them of. Whatever it is that your man needs from you in terms of space, make sure you give it to him.
You want to make him feel hat you aren’t like the other girls or women in his life. Show him how cool you are. When you share the control, meet his needs, and make him feel special, you’re keeping his love because you are touching his heart in a way that he understands!
You will be earning his love in a way that most women skip out on. You will be making a difference in your love life, today and tomorrow!
These are a few secrets that can get his love, keep his love, and even revitalize your relationship. You can use them to change your love life and your entire world!
From The Editors at LoveRomanceRelationship: Alexandra is the author of the well-loved book “77 Secrets to Make Him Love You” – just go here to get her free newsletters with her great advice and check out “77 Secrets” – you’ll learn not only what might be wrong in your relationship – but how to turn it around into that fulfilling, loving relationship->>