No, You Don’t Have To Settle

If you’re at all like I was – you may be thinking about “just accepting” a “decent” work life and a “whatever” love life.

by Rori Raye

Or, even worse, enduring a constant struggle trying to choose between them.

Trying to decide which one – business success or love – is more important to you. And then feeling like you have to choose which one to “work harder” on.

What I learned – the hard, trial-and-error way – is that:

You Don’t Have To Settle.

You don’t have to choose between business success and a man.

The truth is, you can feel like a woman instead of like a mover-and-shaker when you’re with a man – and still be a mover-and-shaker at work!

You can learn – quickly – how to Have It All…

Do these 8 steps to quickly feel yourself swimming in energy, power and fun – right now:

1. Write down all the things in the world that matter to you – that have NOTHING to do with a man.

It can be World Peace, it can be growing your business, it can be moving, it can be finishing a project – and relate any “smaller” ideas you get to a BIGGER end goal – a bigger DREAM that makes you feel happy.

2. Now make a list of anything you could do to help CHANNEL your energy, the power of your thoughts and feelings, into accomplishing any one of those things.

Yes – I’m talking here about Masculine Energy. This is total “BOY”!

Being a Business Siren is all about getting our Masculine and Feminine, “Boy” and “Girl” energies flowing along inside ourselves – so smoothly and effortlessly that we can feel everything, do anything, and Have It All…

3. Now look out a window (or imagine you’re looking out one) and write down things that are FUN.

Things that FEEL like fun.

I don’t want to hear a “have-to” in the bunch.

This is FUN CHANNELING.

We’re simply funneling and channeling the energy you’re using now to figure things out, to Problem-Solve into the happy, fun, ACTION, goal-oriented things on your list.

4. Now, purposefully schedule ways to keep that energy moving “out the window.”

Make an actual list.

5. Now – as you practice doing this, you’ll notice a lot of resistance from inside you.

You’ll notice the desire to turn from this action work into thinking about a problem, a concern, or about your man – in your head.

You’ll notice yourself wanting to create action around the “thing” that’s bothering you – or around HIM.

Really catch that.

Now…

6. Sink into the feelings – all of them.

Whatever they are…let them “roil” through you without judgment or comment…

…and the moment you feel ANY feeling that feels more about power than about defeat or concern or worry…

7. Then immediately go to your action list and TAKE AN ACTION.

DO SOMETHING from your list.

I really want you to associate your first feeling of power with action.

I want you to DO something from the list you have – whether it’s moving furniture, straightening your desk, walking outside, writing a letter to someone, redoing your resume, writing a business plan, starting the outline for your next book…whatever.

It can’t be random with this step. It has to be something you thought up and wrote down.

If you read over your long list enough, you’ll remember a lot of steps, and so you can spontaneously do something from the list – but at some point I want you to:

8. Cross The Thing You Do OFF THE LIST.

I want you to associate the good, powerful feeling with a goal, with an action step, and with accomplishing it.

And this has absolutely NOTHING to do with “a man,” or “a problem”!

Being a woman isn’t supposed to hold you back from everything you want.

I know it sometimes “looks” that way.

As if no “woman” is supposed to “Have It All.”

As if we can’t be super successful in business and still be truly loved by a man…

AND…That’s just a lie we’ve been told and sold our whole lives…

The truth is: When we empower ourselves, we not only empower ALL women everywhere – we FREE men!

We free men to “hear” us in the workplace, and – at the same time – to support us and LOVE us at home.

Being a Business Siren lets you see all sides of everything.

As a Siren, you feel incredible power in everything you touch, see, do, experience.

So…

If You’re Enduring The Pain Of The Myth That A Man Wants A Woman Who “Plays Small…”

…and find yourself “turning down” your wattage whenever you’re around a man you like – “hiding your light under a barrel” and trying to “do” girl when you don’t really feel like it…

You don’t have to do that anymore!

A Business Siren gets to do everything she wants out in the world – and STILL get her man…

For All Of Us Women – Feeling independent, successful and happy in our work is crucial to making our romantic relationship with a man work.

In her books, CDs, DVDs and seminars, relationship coach Rori Raye teaches women the completely original, simple-to-do and stunningly effective techniques for communication, confidence, and connecting with men that she used to turn her own, now-glorious two-decades-long marriage around. I’m a trained relationship coach, a former crisis counselor, and through my eBook, programs and newsletter, I’ve helped thousands of women succeed in love by teaching them the Tools I’ve created and developed with my clients – Tools that work quickly and effortlessly to change a struggling love life into Happy Ever After.

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