ryan eliason.jpgby Ryan Eliason

MOST PEOPLE are motivated MOST OF THE TIME by fear of failure, avoidance of disaster, avoidance of pain, etc. This driving force creates a very different experience of life than being motivated by a powerful and compelling VISION of what is possible. We push ourselves through life rather than being pulled when we are motivated by AVOIDANCE rather than INSPIRATION and POSSIBILITY. For example, see if any of these apply to you ….

– You invest just enough time, energy, and money in your career or small business to make barely enough money to make it through the month. You’re more motivated by fear of not being able to make your basic monthly expenses than by a vision of abundance.

– You eat healthy only when you feel like you’re about to get sick, or you already are sick. You’re more motivated by fear of ill health than by the possibility of radiant health and energy.

– You go to the gym only after you’ve gained 10 pounds. You’re more motivated by avoidance of feeling fat and unattractive than you are by the possibility of feeling super sexy and confident.

– You get a massage or go to the chiropractor only when you’re in significant pain and you feel like it’s going to get worse if you don’t do something. You’re more motivated by avoidance of pain than by the possibility of a really happy, comfortable, highly functioning body.

– You romance your partner just enough to keep them from getting bored. You’re more motivated by fear of your partner’s disapproval than by the possibility of passion and romance.

– You go to therapy only when you’re afraid that your partner is about to leave you. You’re more motivated by fear of loss than the possibility of having the relationship of your dreams.

– You call your parents only when it’s been so long that you figure they are going to get pissed if you don’t call soon. You’re more motivated by fear of their disapproval than you are by the possibility of a truly close, loving, supportive relationship.

– You book that vacation only after you’ve begun to get burned out. You’re more motivated by fear of falling apart and getting depressed than you are by the possibility of living an extremely fun, fulfilling and adventurous life.

I’m sure you get the idea. You can probably relate to one or more of those examples. If you can’t, you probably have your own examples. My point is simple, if you’re not living from VISION and POSSIBILITY, you’re probably going to live a mediocre life, and you’re probably going to keep getting the same results you’ve always gotten. There is nothing wrong with being motivated by avoidance. We all do it. It’s actually a very effective motivation. However, it will only take you so far, and sometimes it becomes dull, boring, and even painful.

It’s a lot more FUN and PLEASURABLE to live from VISION and POSSIBILITY. It’s also a lot more EFFECTIVE. In summary, it is very useful to create a compelling and exciting vision for each area of your life that is important to you. Once you have this vision, it is helpful to keep it in mind, think about it often, and allow it to inform your actions on a daily basis. Some of the benefits include more ALIVENESS and VITALITY, as well as greater level of CREATIVITY, NEW PERSPECTIVES, DRIVE, TENACITY and even DISCIPLINE. You will also be more ATTRACTIVE. In the end, you will get better RESULTS, but even if you don’t, you’ll ENJOY YOURSELF a lot more.

Referencing your life from VISION and POSSIBILITY instead of FEAR and AVOIDANCE often requires you to face your fears and take more risks. It also puts you face to face with your limitations, which can be uncomfortable. You also get to deal with everyone’s favorite gremlin, DOUBT. It is no wonder that most people are content to settle for a life that is primarily driven by fear and avoidance. It takes courage to tell the truth to yourself about what you REALLY WANT and to truly LIVE from your vision, choosing to believe that it is possible. In the end, you get to decide each day, and each moment, what kind of life you are going to live. You are constantly presented with a choice between FEAR and LOVE.

A couple of words of caution – Be careful not to chase a dream that isn’t really yours. You are unique and your vision will be as unique as you are. It doesn’t matter what anybody else thinks of your vision. Your vision might be of fame and fortune, or it might be of simplicity and inner peace, or something entirely different. There is no right or wrong, there is only AUTHENTICALLY YOU, or not. You will know when you have it because you will FEEL IT.

Also, beware of thinking you will ARRIVE when you achieve your vision. The only place and time you will ever arrive is right here, right now.

The world is full of examples of rich and famous people who have committed suicide. They achieved their vision, and they didn’t bother to create a new one. They “arrived” and thought, “Is this all there is?” A powerful vision is one that is always evolving. It can take some effort to keep it fresh. What if these people who became rich and famous had created the next powerful and compelling vision for their lives? Perhaps they could have taken on ending world hunger, finding inner peace, becoming their own best friend, or mastering the violin. It could have been anything as long as it was authentic and compelling to them.

Discovering and creating your vision can be fun. Simply ask yourself the question, “What do I really want?” If you get stuck you might try asking, “If I had a magic wand, what would I create?”, or “If I had no limits of time and money, I would …”

I suggest you write about your vision. It can also be very helpful to get some support. Speaking with someone who is genuinely curious and interested in your vision can help you to explore and clarify what you really want. Coaches are usually very skilled with this process.

From Sarah: Ryan is the real deal. He’s an incredible coach. You can find him here -> RyanEliason.com, and from there you can email him or actually call him by phone…

1 Comment

  1. Anonymous on March 10, 2011 at 8:30 pm

    It’s all very well and good to say “live for your vision rather than avoidance”. However, I (and I suspect many others) have no experience with what ‘aliveness’ or ‘vitality’ actually means. And a “loving, supportive relationship”? What in the world is THAT? Maybe the reason so many of us are avoidant isn’t because we’re afraid, but rather we’ve never experienced and therefore have no idea what you’re talking about. We’ve lived in Pluto’s cave our whole lives, ok? We wouldn’t recognize good, healthy situations if they bit us on the nose. WE’RE NOT AFRAID, WE’RE JUST IGNORANT, OK? I personally have never experienced a healthy, loving relationship, so it’s kind of hard to imagine or ‘vision’ one. And a ‘fulfilling’ life? What does that feel like? V



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