by Stephanie Shields

You’ve smelled the scent of somebody else, that whiff of another woman’s perfume, or another guy’s cologne.

You’ve suspected it’s true for a long time, actually, but you just aren’t sure.

That feeling makes you helpless. Even worse, it leaves you open to being beaten up emotionally. It’s no way to live, let me tell you. But lots of people live that way every single day.

The key is knowing when your relationship is headed for the “danger zone”. If your significant other is cheating on you, you can’t afford to keep your eyes closed. It’s not healthy.

But if you want to know for sure, there’s one thing you absolutely must do: BE sure.

If you charge ahead and accuse somebody of cheating on you, but you’re guessing and you’re emotional about it, you’re shooting yourself in the foot, in a couple big ways:

1) Your own thoughts will be muddled, and the emotional manipulator in your life will take advantage of that

2) It won’t stop the behavior you want to stop, because your partner will probably be able to explain his/her way out of it

So being sure is the key to success. But what do you need to be sure of?

This is a place where almost every “cheating” guide out there will put you on the wrong track.

What does it mean to cheat?

There are two varieties. You might think of them as two kinds of affair.

There’s the physical affair. Everybody knows about this one. If your partner is sneaking off for amorous liaisons with somebody other than you–sleeping around–you’ve got a physical affair situation.

But that’s not the only thing that can happen. The emotional affair is just as harmful. It’s actually even more dangerous, because modern technology makes it extremely easy.

This is the kind of affair where your partner isn’t sleeping with somebody else physically, but he or she might as well be. Their
mind isn’t with you.

Are they texting somebody else while they’re out with you, and saying it’s the office?

Are they sneaking cell phone calls at all hours of the night?

Are they constantly unhappy when they’re around you, and start hinting at wanting out?

Those are signs of an emotional affair. You might have no idea it’s going on, but it’s slowly destroying your relationship from within.

Regardless of which type of affair is infecting your relationship, you need to know for sure what’s going on so you can stop it.

Don’t let yourself be taken for granted.

Don’t let yourself be used and abused.

Don’t let somebody else rob you of your health, happiness or peace of mind.

Stop the bad behavior by arming yourself with knowledge so you can approach the situation confidently and rationally.

If your partner is cheating on you, no matter how, you can find out for sure. There are signs and clues everywhere. You just need to know what they are and how to recognize them.

Isn’t it time you knew, and started living again?

Stephanie Shields

From Sarah: Okay – I basically prefer Rori Raye’s way of dealing with jealousy and worring about if your man is cheating – but if you’re finding yourself obsessed and focusing on what he’s doing, and thinking about what to check out – his phone, his computer – this site is the place to go. Stephanie lays it all out – tells you WHAT to look for, and then how to deal with what you find. If I’m going to worry – I want to know what I’m dealing with, and not just be guessing…so go take a look and get her free newsletters to find out if he’s cheating->

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