Lots of friends have a code that says that they will never get involved with another friend’s ex. Some take this quite seriously and, even if they actually LIKE another’s ex, they won’t do anything about it.
However, what should you do if you feel a real connection between yourself and a friend’s ex?
First Of All:
You need to ask yourself how it is that you allowed such close contact that you even RECOGNIZE this connection. Obviously, you’ve spent some time talking to him or her and found that you have a lot in common.
Why would you even open that door?
If you crossed that line, you probably feel like the rule doesn’t make sense. And guess what? You’re right!
Because someone else has spent time in a relationship with a person and it didn’t work out shouldn’t mean that you have to avoid that person or feelings your might have for them.
There are two sides to a breakup. And it is very important for your friend to feel her side is right and to find ways to move past the relationship. As a friend, she understandingly wants your loyalty and support for however she now needs to frame the relationship and the breakup.
This is understandable, but you’re also an individual and no one else should dictate to you with whom you shouldn’t talk or have a relationship. If you and someone’s ex hit it off, it might turn into something amazing for you?
The Value Of The Friendship
However, you must absolutely be sensitive to the needs of your friend – especially if this is a close friend who trusts you and sees you often.
Unless there was a very amicable breakup, you are asking for a lot of drama in your life if you get together with a best friend’s ex. You may have to choose between your friend and her ex, and you might lose both.
However you choose to work this out for yourself and the ex, there is one thing that you should definitely do: Sit down and have a talk with your friend.
Be honest about any developing feelings between yourself and the ex. It could be that your friend will be in a secure enough place to tell you to go for it and wish you all the best. If not, if it’s too rough for her, then you have some thinking to do.
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