Intimacy – Is It Him, Or Us…?

by Rori Raye

Essentially, intimacy is scary.

For some of us, it’s terrifying.

Going with a man who doesn’t light our fire, yet offers us true intimacy can be a very confusing thing.

Staying away from a man who lights our fire but doesn’t offer or want true intimacy with us can be painful – and yet, strangely comforting and attractive.

Solving this, so we can have what we truly want, instead of what our minds (contaminated and contorted by so many pressures and against-our-feminine-natures-experiences throughout our lives) are constantly telling us – takes almost a vow to be willing to be available to love, and to practice being available to love.

We can practice with imaginary men and imaginary circumstances, using the Modern Siren Tools in front of our mirrors, in the shower, in the kitchen – this is REAL “training” we can give ourselves.

*We can do this constantly throughout each day, practicing new words, new body bearing, new feelings, new ways to shift from our heads to our hearts.

*We can learn, in baby-steps, to open up to not-so-scary things like trees, flowers, dogs, and move slowly to open up to ourselves and our feelings.

And then, through Circular Dating – regardless of where we are in the “real world” at any given moment, we get to practice with humans in the flesh.

*We can take it out of our imaginations (and, truly, our imaginations are as “real” to our brains as what we consider real life – just not as intense), and onto the “street.”

*We can take it into our personal lives with our family, friends, lovers, husbands, dates, the men at the shop counter and the men at the speed dating event, the men at the party, the men at the bar.

It’s that constant “practice”, with “real men” in “real circumstances”, that takes everything up a notch.

It triggers us and forces us to choose between our old ways – and the new ways we’re learning.

This is the Rori Raye Method in a nutshell.

It’s about learning to NOT think.

Instead, learning to feel.

And though it’s about not thinking, it’s still about practicing Tools that require you to be aware of where you are and what you’re choosing at any given moment – in a heart, body and sensation sense.

In her books, CDs, DVDs and seminars, relationship coach Rori Raye teaches women the completely original, simple-to-do and stunningly effective techniques for communication, confidence, and connecting with men that she used to turn her own, now-glorious two-decades-long marriage around. I’m a trained relationship coach, a former crisis counselor, and through my eBook, programs and newsletter, I’ve helped thousands of women succeed in love by teaching them the Tools I’ve created and developed with my clients – Tools that work quickly and effortlessly to change a struggling love life into Happy Ever After. To try out Rori’s Siren Island Membership for only $1 — go here! <—-

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