by Christian Carter
Continued from Part 3 of How to Improve Your Relationship with One Question.
So, now that you know your habits and you know that you’re looking for the big picture in order to improve your relationship, here’s the next step that you can take RIGHT NOW…
I’m going to get you out of the habit of using your destructive “All or Nothing Thinking”. I want you to look at your trait or traits again that were your own WEAKNESSES in your negative relationship pattern. Now I want you to try something that might seem strange at first.
I want you to identify at least one way in which your trait or habit in your negative relationship pattern is also a STRENGTH.
I’ll give you a minute to see how the very trait that you just identified as a WEAKNESS is also a STRENGTH.
I want you to write the STRENGTH down right now next to the pattern it’s associated with.
Go ahead. I’ll give you a few minutes.
How this Relates to Your Goal, To Improve Your Relationship
There’s a lot of power and AWARENESS created in what you just did when you think about it… IF you stay aware of this when you’re interacting with a man in your relationship. When you see how your WEAKNESSES, that you’ve been giving yourself a hard time about and trying to figure out how to get rid of, are also part of your STRENGTHS… things you never could have understood will start to become clear to you.
Challenges, issues, attitudes and hurtful things that a man brings to you that relate to your patterns, and these traits will start to look differently to you…
And you’ll start to have an amazing sense of CLARITY about what’s the best thing to do for you, for him, in order to improve your relationship and keep it fantastic.
You’ve got some basic tools to work with now to understand more about what’s going on with you and your relationship with a man.
But it really only starts here.
Are you CLEAR on how these 2 patterns come up in your life?
Do you know how to avoid “All or Nothing Thinking” the next time it comes up and tries to create DISTANCE between you and a man?
Do you know where these thoughts come from and what to do to stay conscious and overcome the negative aspects of your other destructive relationship patterns?
Do you know how to guide a man to start doing these same things to improve HIMSELF and the way he is in your relationship, so you don’t have to try and convince him of what’s going on that he can’t see or isn’t paying attention to?
Most women who aren’t in a happy, healthy, loving, lasting relationship don’t have this knowledge and the ability to stay connected with a man that comes along with it. The strange truth is, patterns aren’t just coincidences in your life. They keep repeating in your life for a reason.
How Can You Continue Learning to Improve Your Relationship?
What are the lessons that keep coming up for you in your love life that you can’t learn from where you are today, but keep coming at you?
The reality is that you have a choice…
You can keep repeating these patterns, and experiencing the pain and frustration that comes with them again and again…
This is the “easy” choice that doesn’t ask or require you to learn and grow at all.
You can create a “shift” in your life, and you can improve your relationship.
You can choose to have more AWARENESS and more GROWTH… which will of course bring new ways of seeing things, and best of all, NEW RESULTS in your relationship.
If you’ve given your all in reading this article, you’re well on your way to knowing how to improve your relationship!
I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in life and love!
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