by T Dub Jackson
What it means: In our society it is generally the man’s job to go up to the woman to strike up a conversation and possibly ask her out for a date. A lot of women do things that prevent men from approaching them without even realizing it.
One example is if you go out to a club or a bar with a large group of friends. If you are in a big group, it is a lot less likely for a man to approach you and there are a number of reasons for this. One is that a nice guy might feel like he is interrupting if you are sitting there, chatting with your friends. A bigger reason is the fear of rejection. It’s not easy for a lot of guys to approach a woman because of a fear of rejection. The only thing that is worse than being rejected by a woman, is being rejected by a woman in front of several other women. All but the most confident men will have this image in their mind of going up to you, getting shot down, and then having a group of attractive women laughing at him.
To make yourself approachable you will have to spend a little bit of time by yourself. You can still go to a bar or a club with your friends but you can take a little walk by yourself or stand by the bar for a minute without traveling in a pack.Your body language also says a lot and the way you carry yourself can make you more or less approachable. Men are simple creatures though so it is important to keep things as simple as possible. If you want a man to approach you, make eye contact with him and give him a nice smile. If he is attracted to you and he is not a complete wimp, he will come up to you.
Bottom Line: If you want a man to approach you, you’ll have to make it as easy as possible for him. Breaking away from your group of friends for a minute and giving a guy a nice smile lets him know that you might be attracted to him and gives him an opportunity to approach you without the risk of being embarrassed in front of all of your friends.
From Sarah: T Dub teamed up with Jonathan Green to create “Girl Gets Ring.” It’s all about what’s really going on with men so you can stop pushing him and stop wasting time waiting for him to pop the question. Watch the free video and read all about their approach to get a handle on your relationships–>>