by Virginia Feingold Clark
If you don’t learn how to stick up for yourself in a relationship, who else will? There are people in this world who are predators and they will “prey” on you without thinking twice. It is as easy for them to make you a victim as it is for you to be one.
One of the most important skills you have to learn is how to stick up for yourself. If this is hard for you to do it’s probably because you were never allowed to as a child or when you did you got punished. Like most women, you were most likely raised to put your happiness behind the happiness of others.
I know how it feels to be victimized, I was a victim for years because men could see my lack of confidence. I didn’t know I was a victim because I was so used feeling that way all the time. As you can read in my book, I almost died because I couldn’t say “no” to one particular man.
Check it out here: “It’s Never To Late To Marry”
I came upon these 11 Human Rights, by author and hypnotherapist Dick Stuphan, years ago. They really gave me pause. I want to share them with you because they will make you think, as they did me. You might not agree with every one of them, but you will resonate with a few.
The 11 Human Rights – Stick Up for Yourself
1. You have the right to do anything as long as you do not purposely hurt someone else and you are willing to accept the consequences.
2. You have the right to maintain your self-respect by answering honestly even it does hurt someone else (as long as you are being assertive rather than aggressive.)
3. You have the right to be what you are without changing your ideas or behavior to satisfy someone else.
4. You have the right to strive for self-actualization (to be all you can be).
5. You have the right to use your own judgment as to the need priorities of yourself and others, if you decide to accept any responsibility for another’s problem.
6. You have the right not to be subjected to negativity.
7. You have the right to offer no excuses or justification for your decisions or behavior.
8. You have the right not to care.
9. You have the right to be illogical.
10. You have the right to change your mind.
11. You have the right to defend yourself.
Each One of These Rights Motivates You to Stick Up for Yourself
It took me a long time to finally learn that I was responsible for my own life and how I take care of myself. I have a chapter in my book titled “Take Yourself Seriously” in which I show you the dire consequences of always putting your man’s needs first. You can stick up for yourself and make him extraordinarily happy at the same time.
And as always, if you need more support on how to get married, or with any relationship problem, take advantage of my 30-minute No Charge Phone Consultation.
I am so happy to be connecting to you here and I welcome your questions and your thoughts.
In the meantime don’t forget, things can change in an instant, don’t lose hope!
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