by Christian Carter
Using your intuition might be the best, and in some situations, the ONLY way, that you’ll be able to know what’s really going on inside the mind of a man.
And even better, the best way to find a way to help him understand YOU and your feelings.
I know it sounds counterintuitive, and I can hear it now…
“You mean I have to give some understanding in order to get it?”
Ummmm, yeah. You do.
It’s called maturity.
And if you’re completely honest, I think you’ll remember that deep down even YOU don’t always know exactly what your feelings mean or how to make sense of it all.
So how do you expect a man to take in the small part of your feelings that you can explain with words and understand and relate to you?
Here’s an answer to get you started-
Use your intuition and let it guide you.
So how do you do that?
I’m going to give you a short-cut guide to getting in touch with your intuition.
That way, you can start getting the benefits of understanding and becoming understood.
SIX-STEPS FOR USING YOUR INTUITION WITH A MAN
Step 1: Clear Your Mind Of Fear And Doubt
Some women end up worrying almost obsessively that something is wrong or going badly with a guy they’re interested in or dating once they see some negative sign or pattern.
And once this happens, they want to know what’s going on so intently, and often expect the bad, so they let their negative thoughts take over.
If you want to be able to use your intuition, you need to start interrupting that voice in your head that’s the “fear-monger”.
You know the one – that voice that’s always worrying just to try and keep you safe and protected. And to predict all the bad things you’ve seen and felt before so that you don’t have to go through them again.
The thing is, you can’t find the truth in a situation if you and your mind is buried inside your mind in fears and doubts.
Step 2: Accept That Men Don’t Make “Sense”
All those frustrating things that men do that don’t make any sense to you as a woman will NEVER MAKE SENSE.
Stop trying to make sense of them.
Trying to make sense of a man in your own terms is entirely counterproductive and will only make you frustrated.
To learn about things you don’t already know, like intuitive ideas, you have to have to look with a different set of eyes – not
the same ones you always use for yourself.
Step 3: You Can’t Figure Everything Out
Have you ever REALLY hit it off with a guy but after a few weeks or months, even though things seemed great, the man pulled away and starting acting distant and cold?
Most men, at one time or another, do things like this that are impossible to analyze and figure out.
EXPECT to NOT UNDERSTAND everything a man does.
If you can become more comfortable with the idea of not knowing everything about WHY a man does what he does, then you’ll feel a strange sense of calm relaxation – along with an increase in your own self-confidence.
And guess what? This ends up being VERY UNIQUE and very ATTRACTIVE when a man sees and senses that you can be confident and “centered” in those times where other women he knows have acted a little “too emotional” for him.
Now, I’m not saying that it’s OK for a man to do whatever he wants, and that you should accept any negative and withdrawing behaviors without having your own feelings about it -and “pretending” it’s all ok.
But the more relaxed and positive you think and feel around these things, no matter what the man is doing, the sooner you’ll stop fighting everything in your mind and start creating better situations for yourself.
It’s frustrating and counterintuitive, but accepting what’s going on and moving forward from that reality in a positive way changes the whole frame of the situation.
There’s a funny thing about the way the world works… and especially about how men are when it comes to relationships with women-
Step 4: Listen For More Than Words
Intuition doesn’t talk in straight answers, or in plain logical English.
It’s much more abstract.
Your intuition talks to you through feelings, images, and bodily sensations such as “gut feelings.”
Most people, especially women I know, are usually in an open and relaxed state when they get intuitive gut feelings and understandings.
If you don’t think you have a strong intuitive sense, simply try asking yourself more questions and keep them mulling around in your mind.
When you’ve got something in the back of your mind, something amazing happens without you even trying. Your brain takes notice and uses all your senses to find any sign or trace of information that relates to your questions as you go about your day.
It’s kind of like a search running in the background on your computer – even though you’re doing something else it doesn’t stop looking.
After you’ve asked your questions, your mind will start sending you ideas, feelings and images without you even thinking about it.
But sometimes it usually takes more time than you’d like.
Finally, your intuitive voice will eventually just pop up and start to give you hints and information without you even asking for it.
And then it’s up to you to pay attention, acknowledge it and make good use of it.
The huge mistake too many women make is when they get intuitive messages that they don’t like, or that scare them.
When this happens, a mature Woman will look at the intuitive message she’s getting and go to a place of figuring out how she can use the message she’s getting in a constructive way for herself – and for her relationship.
Step 5: Ask Your Intuition Questions
One of my favorite things to do is to train and tune my intuition with each new person I meet.
And I’ve personally found that body language has become the thing that gives me special intuitive hints about people and situations.
If you’re new to using your intuition or you’re concerned with if or how to act on it, start with smaller things that might be less important.
Like whether or not you should go away for the weekend or if your friend will like the gift you’ve been thinking about for them.
That way, you can be practicing and learn to use your intuition without doing it in high-risk or high-pressure situations.
This will help you develop your abilities and become more comfortable to trust what you find.
One of the areas that lots of women have the most problems using their intuition and tuning into where the man in their life is really at is in UNCOMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS.
Step 6: Act With The “Long-Term” In Mind
Years ago I had a huge learning experience when it came to using and listening to my intuition in the right way.