long distance relationshipFrom Wikipedia: “A long  distance relationship (LDR) is typically an intimate relationship that takes place when the partners are separated by a considerable distance. In 2005, according to The Center for the Study of Long Distance Relationships, an estimated 2.9% of US marriages were considered long-distance, with 1 in 10 marriages reported to have included a period at long distance within the first 3 years.

“This means that in 2005 approximately 3.5 million people in the US alone were involved in long-distance marriages. It is harder to know precisely how many non-married couples are in a long-distance relationship but according to The Center for the Study of Long Distance Relationships there was an estimated 4 to 4.5 million college couples in the US which were in non marital LDRs.

“Before the popularity of Internet dating, long distance relationships were not as common, as the primary forms of communication between the lovers usually involved either telephone conversations or corresponding via mail. However, with the advent of the Internet, long-distance relationships have exploded in popularity as they become less challenging to sustain with the use of modern technology. Technologies including cell phones, e-mail, online chatting and video conferencing have made it possible to keep in touch. Other forms of communication frequently employed by partners in long-distance relationships include:

  • Letters
  • Text messaging
  • VoIP programs
  • Social networking websites
  • Shared online activities (e.g., online games such as MMORPGs)
  • Shared offline activities (e.g., watching the same movie while talking on the phone and listening to the same songs on radio at same time while talking on phone)”

So – Even With All The Ways To Keep In Touch – How Do You Endure A Long Distance Relationship?

How do you stand the lack of touch, of feel, of just having him close by?

How do you keep your cool when you want to yell and scream – and you just WANT him to be where you are?

How to you stay close, how do you stay connected, how do you EFFECT each other?

How to Survive A Long Distance Relationship  And Make It Work

If you doubt that old statement: “Distance makes the heart grow fonder” – you’re not alone.

And if you’re spending too much time and energy worrying about and feeling troubled about whether your long distance relationship will last  or not, you’re not alone.

Everyday on the planet, millions of women have no choice. They are separated by miles and miles from their men.

In the armed services – it’s a way of life. And even though it’s your way of life – that doesn’t make it any easier to bear.

Here are so many common situations – it’s a wonder we ALL aren’t in long distance relationships:

  • Executives on meetings overseas, to countries around the world, leaving their women and children at home for days – sometimes weeks and months.
  • Soldiers fighting for freedom in a foreign land, with loved ones worrying about them back home
  • High school sweethearts pursuing college degrees in separate and distant universities
  • Overseas workers who can’t wait for their contracts to finish and be with their spouses and kids
  • Movie stars shooting abroad, feeling all alone once the filming lights turn off
  • Lovers who ran into each other online and awaiting for the day they meet each other physically

No matter who or what you are, the playing field is level – we’re all in the same boat when our men aren’t near.

Even though we may feel angry with them and frustrated by them when they’re around – when they’re away from us – it feels terrible.

So – with all the obstacles posed by being in a long distance relationship – can you make YOUR long distance relationships work? Yes, you can!

Forget About What Other People Think Of Your Long Distance Relationship

Since long distance relationships are so common now, and so many people are struggling with the logistics of maintaining one and getting it to the next level – you’d think it would be totally “acceptable” to be in one. But – because most people don’t have to deal with the difficulties of keeping up a long distance relationship – they think it’s downright absurd and is bound for a breakup anyway.

And so they won’t be supportive of you.

You know what we mean if you’re involved in an LDR: your parents, best friends, co-workers or classmates never miss an opportunity to tel you that it’s never going to work.

But that’s not true. In fact, there are a lot of things you can do to keep your long distance relationship fiery and strong.

Facing Up To The Challenges Of Long Distance Relationship

Just think of it as a challenge you can overcome.  Actually, there’s a certain advantage to being miles away from your man.

Couples who got the advantage of meeting up with one another all the time can start taking each other for granted.  A man can ease off, stop calling as much – and just “assume” you’re there. And when that happens, romance goes out the window.

But in your case, you have every reason to defy the distance, to keep your connection alive, and to look forward to seeing each other like it’s the most important thing in the world!

Go on. Maintain the long distance relationship. Prove everybody wrong.

Thanks to the internet, keeping in touch with your man is do-able. It’s not even expensive anymore. So there’s no reason for you to give in to that opposite saying: “Distance makes the heart forget.” You can exchange e-mails, chat and call each other. You may send flying kisses via webcams or flood each other’s social networking site with sweet words.

Long Distance Isn’t Always A Setback

Long distance relationships may sound unusual and challenging – but it’s not impossible! If you want to keep the relationship, then no one or nothing should persuade you to do otherwise – not your family and friends, and most especially not the distance.

Distance should not be the basis to end a relationship. Distance should be defied and considered as a test to make the bond stronger. You are not alone.

From Sarah: If you’re trying to survive a long distance relationship and end up with a permanent, lifelong, living-in-the-same home relationship – what you need now, more than anything – is some excellent SUPPORT and some concrete help to keep the feelings and the connection alive. So you’ll want to take a look at this neat little workbook we found for you called The Long Distance Relationship Workbook->

1 Comment

  1. Alec on November 3, 2011 at 4:32 pm

    Sara, from all the way over here, I love you

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