After having my heart beaten to a pulp too many times in my life, I’ve learned a valuable lesson: there’s no time like the present to get back into the saddle.
But before you get too skeptical, hear me out on this expert relationship love advice. Trust me, I’m a relationship expert.
Of course it’s good to take some time and heal. I’m not advising you to push past your feelings and not acknowledge them. In fact, it’s a absolutely necessary part of the healing process.
Lay in bed for a weekend.
Watch all 94 episodes of Sex and The City.
Wallow in enough cute animal videos to comfort you for a lifetime.
But then get back out there!
This time do it with patience, an open heart, and with the goal of simply learning.
You’re out there only to learn and explore, to figure out how to improve upon what went wrong with the last relationship. Do you need to shift some criteria around to find a better match? Find your clarity through exploration.
Here’s the loophole. You don’t necessarily have to date others to start dating. I want you to date yourself. Yes, yourself!
Start filling up the time you used to spend on your relationships with creative ways of pampering and bettering yourself or just plain pleasuring yourself in any way you can think of. It’s healthy to bring pleasure to yourself.
Maybe you’re feeling lesser or you’ve lost some of your glow because a person you loved is leaving your life. Keep in mind you have the power to ignite your own glow! As soon as you’re able to get out of that bed, it’s your challenge to cultivate your spark again.
If you’re finding that your luck in love is not all that great and you seem to be facing a lot of let downs and broken hearts, it’s time to look within.
There a few ways you can increase the quality of your relationships. You can deepen your relationship with yourself through self-nurturing, become a more multifaceted person with more to offer as a partner, and you can increase your relationship skills.
There is not a better time to work on these things than when you are grieving and taking a deeper look within.
When you live your life knowing YOU are in control of your joy and happiness, you will be able to cultivate it on your own without a partner. You will begin to have a greater chance of attracting a true and incredible partnership with someone else in the process. When two halves are out there looking to form a whole… that is not when the most idealistic partnerships are formed.
After heartbreak, it may take time to become whole again. Become the greatest whole you can be and you’ll be well on your way to attracting an even higher quality relationship than the one you’re grieving today.
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