by Rori Raye
Jealous love is painful. But getting rid of jealousy that comes from inside you, from fear and insecurity and a feeling that there’s just not enough of anything out there in the world is something we can work on and I can help you with it.
In my “Reconnect Your Relationship” program, CD #5 is all about Loving Yourself, and CD #4 is all about turning your emotions around – from negative, difficult ones, like jealous love, to positive, tremendously ATTRACTIVE ones, without pretending everything’s okay or working hard to make it “right.”
To Move Past Jealous Love, Try This:
STEP BACK big time. That means, don’t initiate anything, don’t call, don’t DO anything.
Be sweet and warm when he calls.
Right now – this minute – go out and find yourself something meaningful to do, instead of focusing on your jealous love.
That could look like volunteering locally, going to the art store and getting hobby supplies, taking your camera out and taking beautiful photographs of beautiful things. It could look like getting involved in ANYTHING that will get you out of the house, doing something you enjoy, and where there will be MEN around.
Your job is to do what you’re doing, enjoy yourself, feel like you’re contributing to the well-being of others, and FLIRT.
Your job is to raise your self-esteem while you’re in the presence of men.
This will help you so much the next time you see your man.
Gwen’s Jealous Love:
Here’s a letter from Gwen, who’s fear of being cheated on because of her past relationships is creating jealous love in a new relationship:
I have been reading your newsletters and enjoy them very much. I have a lot of issues with feeling that every man I date will cheat on me.
I was in a relationship for over a year and found out that he not only had a wife but another girlfriend as well. All the red flags were there and I chose to ignore them because I was so in love with him.
We had talked about getting married and having a family together. So when I found out about the wife and the other girlfriend I was beyond devastated.
Since that relationship ended, I will periodically get a call or a letter in the mail from him. It just stirs up all those feelings and I find myself falling for his lines all over again.
The problem now is I met a wonderful awesome guy about 3 months ago. We have hit it off really well and the relationship is moving rather fast.
He has already asked me if I would marry him and we have talked about moving in together. The issue I am facing is that I can’t trust him as much as I want to. Every time he is away for the weekend (his family lives in another state) or even up at his apartment for the night I am thinking he is with someone else.
He has assured me several times that he is not going to hurt me or cheat on me like the guys in my past. He has been cheated on in his past and could never do it to someone else.
How can I get past my past and start to trust him without pushing him away? I love him and he is everything I want in a man. I don’t want to jeopardize our relationship because I am so afraid that he will hurt me like the others. Please help me!
Gwen is experiencing jealous love caused by great insecurity. Look for Part 2 of this article tomorrow…
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