beachThese words come from David Deida’s newsletter. I fould them so inspiring, I needed to share them with you. David has some amazing stuff to say about love in our world. Here’s a taste of his wisdom.

The choice is stark.

Do we choose to allow love and openness to live through us — through our words, our breath, our thoughts and our bodies in intimate embrace?

Or do we continue to unconsciously clamp our heart shuts and retract from the surrender into bliss we know is possible in every moment?

Do we live a life of continual opening — leaning right through our fears, no matter how scary they may feel?

Or do we succumb to our unspoken fears, and shuffle semi-despondent through our days and nights, slaves to wounds we never asked for and habits we’ve never shaken off?

Even though the pain of living at less than the grandeur of our full offering is unbearable.

The difficult truth is that your pain-body is a powerful and resilient sonuvabitch — and thrives and self-justifies the more you feed it your suffering. To live a life of suffering is easy. You just have to let your habits and fears rule.

But you are not here to be ruled by the dictates of your pain-body.

You are not here to resign yourself to living a life of half-love.

Of tepid sex. Of hearts unfelt.

You are not here to let the suffering of love-not-lived define your life.

You are here to live the bliss of light and freedom — no matter what arises.

Here’s what David Deida has to say about “waiting” for love:

The whole illusion of waiting for love to happen to you is an utterly misguided one because — right now — RIGHT NOW — you can relax into living the love you already are.

You are reading this today, because, on some level, you already understand that.

But because you are a human being living in a body, you also get that simple knowing isn’t enough.

Knowing is the start.

Living the love you already are, moment by moment, is a challenge. A magnificent challenge! You might even say it is THE challenge of our entire lives, beginning to end. Of course, part of that challenge is being distracted by the clang and rasp of unwanted noise from the outer world.

It’s not easy. We live in a culture of crass and seductive distraction.

Billions of dollars of media are aimed directly at your brain and body, hoping to snag your attention like a trout, to engage your unspoken yearnings and lusts, your hungers and sexual desire…

… and reel you in.

And what happens when your attention is jerked from billboard to email to banner to plasma screen to those damned closed circuit monitors popping up even at supermarket checkout lines and gas pumps — it makes it difficult to practice relaxation of any kind…

… especially relaxation into something as all-pervasive as the boundless infinity of love which you are.

Boundless infinity of love? Or hey — wow — look! — 2 for 1 tickets to Magic Mountain! 79 dollar flights to Seattle until Sunday only! Gourmet chocolate delivered to your home or office…

These are the easy distractions to spot.


“Every act and relationship in your life is an offering. Give yourself fully. Open as limitless love and boundless freedom. Always give from the unbound fullness of your open heart. Do not reduce your family or career into grand substitutes for the bliss that is your very being…

In moments that seem miraculous, don’t settle for the glow of interim fulfillment. Your child’s embrace or your career’s fruition can, for a while, seem overwhelmingly sufficient. Even so, practice being abundantly full and utterly released in every moment, because this is who you are. You are born to live as unbound love and openness. You are born to live as the offering of your deepest gifts. Don’t burden your children and vocation with the obligation to delude you for a lifetime.”


It’s easy to turn off a television. It’s harder to resist getting caught up in the seeming sufficiency of “your child’s embrace or your career’s fruition”

Here is the important distinction…

Feeling good is not the same thing as opening into your unbound offering of love.

In fact, it represents what Buddhist tradition calls a “near enemy” — a quality that masquerades as the original, but is not the real thing, and which blinds us to the real thing.

The way to move beyond the subtle distractions and delicious near enemies of living unbound love, for example, is to find continual re-inspiration, re-grounding, support and moment-by-moment practices.

As David writes…


“A good orgasm is satisfying, but a great orgasm
can be a revelation of your deepest being, unfolding
the bright truth of who you are in ecstatic communion
with your lover. Sex can be a way of magnifying love’s
light right through every cell, shining beyond fear,
melding your hearts in the infinite radiance of being.
Sex can be enlightened — or not.”


Be the best of yourself.

From Sarah: If David’s beautiful philosophy piques your interest, check out his book, “Dear Lover”: Go here for more->

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