The Question: “Rori, I’m not sure how to move forward. I feel stuck. Like, emotionally or mentally stuck. I know what I need to be doing. I’m just not doing it.
I feel like I’m moving along, but just very very slowly. I think this Quarantine thing has got me in a funk. I’m not sure. Help! Tessa”
Tessa – Thank you for writing! I totally, totally understand!
We’re ALL in the “doldrums” and all feeling “stuck” – the trick is to get past that by doing things that inspire you.
So, we’ll try to get those things woken up!
To give you a tiny idea from my own life – I now don’t much feel like doing anything UNTIL I BEGIN doing it!
Don’t even feel like painting – until I step up to the easel, pick up a brush…and then, if I’m still feeling uninvolved, I can sense it’s often the painting itself that doesn’t feel inspiring to me.
So – I start something a new painting from scratch!
And if I start with a completely new approach (like throwing my watercolor paint at the paper instead of “drawing” as a beginning), I feel enlivened even more.
And, if I’m starting from scratch: going through photos on my phone (photos of many different things!), until I come upon one that activates a strong feeling in me – totally changes my mood!
We just need to make that adjustment for you.
Here’s another idea: I’ve discovered that if I start each morning (literally, right after I let my dog into the backyard) by taking pictures of myself with my phone – I wake up emotionally and get interested!
I instinctively shake out my hair, put on lipstick – and then I’m off and running. It’s like my inner fires have been stoked!
In her books, CDs, DVDs and seminars, relationship coach Rori Raye teaches women the completely original, simple-to-do and stunningly effective techniques for communication, confidence, and connecting with men that she used to turn her own, now-glorious two-decades-long marriage around. I’m a trained relationship coach, a former crisis counselor, and through my eBook, programs and newsletter, I’ve helped thousands of women succeed in love by teaching them the Tools I’ve created and developed with my clients – Tools that work quickly and effortlessly to change a struggling love life into Happy Ever After.