How To Draw Him Even Closer

We tend to build up walls around ourselves when we don’t trust ourselves, or when we don’t feel strong and secure on the inside.

by Helena Hart

But the truth is, if you want to connect deeply with your man’s heart, if you want to bring him closer than ever, then make sure you’re operating from your core, not from an “outer shell.”

We operate from our outer shell when we feel a sense of anxiety, insecurity or urgency, when we’re coming from a place of lack.

This happens also when we stay in a relationship where we’re not getting our needs met because deep down we don’t feel we deserve any better – or we don’t think it’s possible to TRULY get everything we want in a relationship.

If we don’t feel strong and secure on the inside, this outer shell is like a false sense of security – and what happens when we build walls around ourselves is no one can truly get close to us.

When this happens, a man might be interested and come on strong for a little while, but if he gets the sense that he can’t get close to you emotionally (if he can’t see who you REALLY are), he’ll eventually give up and start to back off.

Here’s An Example:

Let’s say you’re with a man and you suddenly feel triggered by something he said or did…

Operating from your outer shell would look like attacking or blaming him, holding him responsible for your feelings, or completely detaching and shutting down emotionally.

This will make him feel UNSAFE around you on a deep, unconscious level – which weakens the attraction and connection and pushes him away.

Operating from your core would look like owning your experience, remaining open and expressing how you feel in an authentic way.

This will actually bring a man CLOSER in that moment when done correctly.

In order to connect deeply with a man’s heart and bring him closer than ever, you need to trust yourself more than anyone else.

When a man sees that you’re connected to yourself and you’re operating from your core, he’ll have this “knowing” that he can trust you on a deep level – because he’ll see that you trust YOURSELF – and he’ll want to get as close as possible to you.

When you trust yourself and you feel strong and secure on the INSIDE, you’ll start to be organically led to make decisions that will serve you better than anything else.

This is how to start operating from your core, rather than an outer shell of fear or survival.

Trusting yourself and operating from your core are crucial steps to loving yourself unconditionally and feeling authentic confidence in who you are.

This is what connects you to a man’s heart and allows him to feel close to you emotionally – because he’ll feel a sense of safety with you.

At the same time, when you truly know and understand that the right man for you will want to be with you because of WHO you are, you won’t tolerate bad behavior or accept anything less than you deserve.

Trusting yourself and operating from your core this way will help you create and maintain an extraordinary relationship built on connection, commitment and trust.

This is how you create a safe space of acceptance and appreciation with a man so your relationship lasts, and the passion and connection stay strong!

If you want to build the kind of deep attraction and connection with a man that inspires his love, devotion and lifelong commitment, click here to check out her program, “Feminine Enchantment.” As a Certified Life and Relationship Coach with a masters degree in Psychology, author and master coach teacher, Helena Hart helps people all over the world effortlessly attract love into their lives. Whether you’re recently single or you’ve been single for years – or you’re in a relationship that seems to be going nowhere – Helena can help you quickly and permanently turn your love life around. “I had to uncover my relationship patterns and deep fear of intimacy in order to figure out what I was doing that was blocking love and great men from coming toward me. When I did this I was able to heal myself and turn things around very quickly!”

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