One of the best ways to attract the man you want – or the man you’re already with – is to make sure you’re in your feminine energy when you’re with him.
Here are some important concepts to keep in mind:
A man DOES good to feel good.
A masculine-energy man goes after what he wants, and asks his partner how she feels about it.
A good man will take your feelings into account when he’s planning and making decisions.
A man will usually be able to feel right away if you’re open and receptive to him – or if you’re going to go “competitive” on him. You want to be warm, open and receptive to what a man is offering you.
By doing good for you, a man feels good about himself. As long as you’re happy, a masculine-energy man feels good.
A woman FEELS good to do good.
A feminine-energy woman receives first, processes that through her body – and if it feels good to her, she’ll show appreciation and respect.
A feminine-energy woman gives back, but doesn’t initiate the giving. This keeps her in the feminine receiving mode.
As the feminine-energy partner, when a man makes you an offer, you want to see how you feel about it, say “yes” if it feels good to you – and then show appreciation and acknowledgment.
Feminine energy is extremely powerful – it’s about being open and receptive, while having boundaries at the same time. Saying “no” to something that doesn’t feel good to you is a very feminine-energy quality!
Many women are afraid that setting a boundary will scare a man off – but the truth is, a man can’t fall in love with a woman who doesn’t love herself first.
If you’re caught in the trap of, “I need to do this to please HIM” – but you’re ignoring your own needs and what YOU want, that’s an error in thinking.
Your first priority should be taking care of yourself.
It’s not about being selfish in the negative sense, it’s about taking care of yourself and feeling good in order to do good.
A man will fall head over heels for a woman who feels great about herself and knows where to draw the line.
When you start taking over some of the masculine role, that’s where you can get into trouble.
Most women want a masculine-energy man who can figure things out on his own, but they often get in their own way because they think they’re “helping.”
How often do you try to to “rescue” the conversation – or “entertain” a man? How often are you offering suggestions, or offering to help a man with something when he hasn’t asked? These are good questions to ask yourself.
Many women are giving and “doing” too much without realizing it, which comes across to a man like mothering or managing – and ends up pushing him away.
If you give too much and a man starts to get comfortable with that, you’ll lose that feeling of him wanting you.
Being mindful of the energy dynamic is about making a conscious shift for highest benefit of both parties involved, and for the betterment of yourself and your partner.
Everything is energy. Shifting and experimenting with the energy dynamic within yourself will help you to experience yourself in a different way, and therefore create a better a relationship with others.
This takes awareness along with a little bit of self-discipline. You don’t need to have all the answers or always be “right.” Remember, your feelings are an indicator that things are going well or that something is amiss.
Being in your feminine energy is about leaning back, observing, and letting yourself just BE in the moment – rather than always trying to “make something happen” when you’re with a man.
As a Certified Life and Relationship Coach with a masters degree in Psychology, author and master coach teacher, Helena Hart helps people all over the world effortlessly attract love into their lives. Whether you’re recently single or you’ve been single for years – or you’re in a relationship that seems to be going nowhere – Helena can help you quickly and permanently turn your love life around. If you’re ready to inspire the kind of deep attraction and devotion that makes a man fall in love and want to be with you forever. “I had to uncover my relationship patterns and deep fear of intimacy in order to figure out what I was doing that was blocking love and great men from coming toward me. When I did this I was able to heal myself and turn things around very quickly!” If you want to build the kind of deep attraction and connection with a man that inspires his love, devotion and lifelong commitment, click here to check out her program, “Feminine Enchantment.”