by Virginia Feingold Clark
Do You Need Help Saying “No” to a Man?
If you do, you may be a “yes woman.”
To find out, ask yourself:
1. Do you hide what’s bothering you because you’re afraid to upset him?
2. Do you hope he will know what you’re thinking so you won’t have to tell him?
3. Do you have opinions that you are afraid to express because he might not share them?
The problem with all the behavior above is the LIE OF OMISSION!
By not speaking up you are actually lying to a man and giving him the wrong impression about who you really are.
You may not think you are lying by withholding information about yourself, but you are! You are leading him on wanting to please him and to not rock the boat.
For example: He may think he’s with a woman who loves spending Saturday afternoon watching sports when you actually find the sports boring or a waste of time. But you sit there, feigning interest, because at least you’re spending time with him.
Do you let him believe you share his political views or spiritual beliefs? These are touchy areas and you may be afraid that if you disagree with him he might not like you anymore.
There is only so long you can keep up this man-pleasing behavior before you begin to resent him and yourself for the time you’ve wasted not honoring what you want and what you need.
Because you have lied to him by omission about your true feelings — you end up lying to yourself as well. As a result you’ll begin to feel irritated and upset with yourself and eventually be filled with resentment.
Being A “Yes Woman” Is Like Telling Yourself That You Don’t Matter, That A Man’s Interests And Opinions Are More Important Than Your Own.
The result is that you chip away at your self-esteem and that just ends up leading to more “yes woman” behavior.
That’s not what you want for yourself — and it’s not what a man wants from you!
No Man Wants To Be With A “Yes Woman.”
It’s not sexy or flattering. There is no challenge — no friction — no growth.
When you take a stand for yourself and challenge a man, it creates a spark of attraction that can grow into a bonfire of love.
If who you are and what you believe make him turn away from you then you have your answer: he is not the right man for you.
It’s scary speaking up when you’ve been hiding your true feelings and not expressing yourself. But it is essential to having true love and a healthy relationship.
Don’t forget things can change in an instant, so don’t lose hope!
Sending you love,
Virginia is the real deal. Her story of meeting her man late in life and getting married (she’d never been married before) is amazing, and her ebook “It’s Never Too Late To Marry” will give you the hope you need, step-by-step instructions on how to make it happen for yourself, and the inspiration to transform your love life. Go here to check out Virginia and learn how to have the love and intimacy you want->