What’s the key to a successful relationship?
Sometimes it’s just the simple things, that we easily forget or think are unimportant that hold the key to a healthy and happy relationship.
Read through these 10 helpful tips below on how to make your relationship go the distance.
Helpful Hints to a Successful Relationship
1. Quality Time: Without quality time together, your relationship will not survive. Aim to devote at least half an hour a night, and at least one day a month when the two of you spend time exclusively together.
In fact, the details of how much time or how many days don’t matter. Only that you find what works for both of you and stick to it.
2. Security: You both need to feel secure within the relationship. A successful relationship is built on compromise and a lot of give and take from both of you.
Remind each other often how much the relationship means to you, and how much your partner means to you.
3. Acceptance: Often those little things that first attracted you to your partner can turn into nasty annoying habits. Learn to love your partner, warts and all.
Don’t try to change them into something they’re not, after all you fell in love with them just the way they were.
4. Finances: Money is one of the top conflicts between most couples. For the relationship to work, you need to address your finances and maybe even work out a budget.
5. Respect: Learn to argue well. Never say something to your partner that you wouldn’t want to hear said back.
Just remember, the one good thing they say about arguing, is the making up afterward.
6. Communication: Communication is vital to all successful relationships. Listen to your partner and avoid blame and judgment.
Don’t let your emotions dictate your behavior. Remember just talking things over can help you to both have a deeper understanding of each other.
7. Sex: Pay attention to your sex life. It may start to go downhill over the years, but for a successful relationship, don’t just accept it.
As soon as you notice it, address it with your partner and work out why, and what to do to bring back the passion. Maybe one of your prefers more sex than the other. Why not experiment with new ideas in the bedroom. Role play, dressing up, or maybe take your sex life out of the bedroom and try new places. The introduction of marital aids into the relationship can also help to spice things up. Whatever you decide, remember communication is vital.
8. Balance: Try to keep your dependence and independence in balance. Tell your partner how much you need them, but don’t get to dependent on them and cling to them all the time, as that can make your partner feel trapped.
On the flip side of this, don’t allow your partner to think you don’t need them, by going or doing things without them. Try to keep a happy and healthy balance between the two.
A Successful Relationship Has a Balance of Dependence and Independence
9. Forgiveness: Learn to forgive, and mean it. If you know you will never forgive your partner over something important, and feel the trust can never be regained then give yourself, and him a break and start again, with someone new.
10. Get help: Don’t ever think that going to counseling is a sign of a failed relationship. It can turn a bad relationship around and can also turn an average relationship into an excellent one. More and more people are turning to counseling today; it shows you are both prepared to try and make things better, which can’t be a bad thing at all.
The fact remains, that whether you’re dating or married, a successful relationship is hard to build and maintain. It takes 100% commitment from both of you. However, healthy and long-lasting relationships are achievable and many couples have proven just that. Not everything is always going to be perfect but if you both choose to make it work then it can. And remember it’s the little things that you sometimes do that can go a long way to creating your successful relationship.
Marriage is different from dating for one important reason – you’re INVESTED in the relationship’s success. You can’t just “walk out” when there’s a problem and find another man – you’re invested in working things out (even if you’re too angry or turned off to care, you’re STILL “invested.”) Jeffrey Levine is a corporate coach and trained mediator (and Rori Raye’s husband) who works with both men and women to improve their communication, deepen their connection and remove the blocks that keep them from feeling and expressing love. He is the author of “How To Talk To A Man,” which contains invaluable advice, tools and solutions to help you avoid common relationship pitfalls, and clean things up when they go south. “Every moment presents a new choice for you: a decision about what you want – and what you believe you deserve.”