by Orna and Matthew Walters
This week’s relationship question comes from Carrie:
“After years of bad relationships (including an ugly divorce in my 20’s), I just decided one day to stop the madness! And I took some time for myself and really stopped dating.
Now, I’ve been single for several years and I feel good on my own, really good. I don’t need someone to complete me or anything like that. I’ve taken some time to check in with myself and keep asking myself what do I want and I DO want to share my life with someone.
I’ve done everything I can think of in terms of working on myself and my guy is still not here. What am I supposed to do? I’m not impatient but I keep wondering where is he! Am I doing anything wrong?”
Our Relationship Advice:
We are so happy to hear that you are doing well on your own. It sounds like you are in a really great place.
A true soul partnership is one that you create by holding the belief that your guy is out there, also doing the inner work in order to get to you.
Be sure that you are “Acting As If” – and by that we mean acting in alignment with the belief that your soul mate awaits you.
Not putting your life on hold waiting for your man to show up.
This means, travel, career, everything – that you continue to live your life fully and with the unshakable belief that you are meant to share your life with someone.
A true soul partnership is a choice, not something that you require. This is why “Acting As If” is so very important. When your man reveals himself to you, you will choose to be with him (and he with you).
Timing Is Critical in a Relationship
We don’t have to scour the earth looking for our One, the reality is that we grow to and develop a high vibration of self respect and self love and come across someone who has done the same whose values in relationship match ours.
This is why it critical to say, “No” to every man who does not match your values in relationship. By doing this you send a clear message that you will not settle, and are looking for a true soul partnership and nothing less.
Often times, one person is “ready” before the other. You may be in a holding pattern, awaiting your Beloved because he needs a key piece of learning before he’s ready for you.
If this is the case, it won’t be long before he moves forward in his growth and into your arms. You’ll look back on this time as being relatively short and laugh to yourself about feeling impatient.
So live your life to it’s fullest and hold the space for him. He will show up when the timing is right.
Love and Abundance,
Orna and Matthew
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