Most people who have been close to leaving a marriage know that the longer you wait, the more you risk not being able to turn back time and rediscover the reasons why you got married in the first place. The more time that goes by after a split, the more room there is for another person to become involved. Your wife may be feeling lonely and unloved and there is always someone waiting in the wings to help her recover her groove.
How can you get your wife back now before this happens, before it is too late?
Marriages break down for all sorts of reasons but the main one is a lack of communication. Life can just sometimes get in the way. There may not have been an affair or other serious issue. You may just have simply drifted apart. Perhaps you thought your wife and your relationship would always be there.
Love is like a plant. It takes care and nurturing to blossom. Without sunshine (attention), it withers and dies. It is easy to take ur significant other for granted. We often spend more time worrying about our friends, our jobs or our kids while believing that our other half is fine. But this can leave your wife feeling you no longer love her or have time for her.
However, just like a plant, love can be revived too, if you are willing too put out the effort.
Talk to your wife to find out why she left. Is there something particular that she is unhappy with? Perhaps she believes you are involved with someone else. If you are not, convince her of your innocence. If you are, you need to make a decision as to which person you want to be with. You cannot have two significant others in your life and expect life to go on as before.
Remind your wife of the good times you shared and all the reasons why you fell in love with her. Flatter her but be sincere, remember she knows you perhaps better than you know yourself. Don’t get angry or try laying blame at her door. Never threaten her, your kids or imply that you will harm yourself. You will only frighten her or else she will pity you. Neither emotion is the one you are looking for.
Don’t be too heavy or too desperate. You want her to find you attractive again and nobody likes a desperate man. Be strong and confident. Show her exactly what you want while at the same time convincing her that you are prepared to do what she wants or at least meet her more than half way.
Own up to your mistakes and be ready to move on and work things out.
Go get your wife back now and hopefully you will get to celebrate your golden years together yet.
This guy, T.W., has a video on his site about what he calls “The Magic Of Making Up” that explains a lot (I tried to find a picture of him for here – but you can see him in the video – he’s rough but cute)…and his stuff deals with the details – what to do, what to say…check him and the free information he puts out right here->