by T Dub
Get to know, love, and appreciate the real man in your life.
What Love, Understanding and Appreciation Mean:
When you are first dating a man he is trying to put his best foot forward. He is trying to show you his best attributes to that you will be attracted to him.
He might tell you all about the sports that he participates in to show you how fit, strong, and healthy he is. He might take you to fancy restaurants and spend money on you to show you how financially successful he is. He is putting forth a persona that he believes you will be attracted to.
This is not something that is unique to men, everyone puts their best foot forward when they are meeting someone for the first time.
The problem is that if you are attracted to and/or fall in love with his “persona” you are not really getting to know and fall in love with the real him.
Another problem is that eventually the man in your life may become less attractive to you if he feels that you are only interested in him because of the positive attributes that he has been showcasing. If he thinks that you only want to be with him because he spends a lot of money on you and takes you to fancy restaurants, he may resent you and become less attracted to you.
So What Can You Do To Show Your Love and Appreciation?
When it comes to money, you can thank him for taking it to such a nice restaurant but tell him that you also enjoy simple things like ordering a pizza and watching a movie at home, or going on a picnic and making sandwiches yourself.
You can even offer to pay once in a while. Even if he does not accept your offer to pay, he will appreciate the fact that you don’t expect him to be your sugar daddy.
In the beginning of a relationship a man wants you to be attracted to him which is why he tries to project a certain image. As time goes on however, he wants you to love and respect the real him so you need to dig deeper and learn more about who he is as a person.
You also need to show that you are interested in and respect him as a person, not because of how fit, healthy, good looking, wealthy etc. he is but because of who he is as a person.
Rootin’ For Ya,
From Sarah: T Dub teamed up with Jonathan Green to create “Girl Gets Ring.” It’s all about what’s really going on with men so you can stop pushing him and stop wasting time waiting for him to pop the question. Watch the free video and read all about their approach to get a handle on your relationships–>>