What follows may sound incredibly sexist and stereotypical, but that’s not the intent – we just want to give you the information you need to help you get back together with your ex husband or boyfriend.
But, because everybody is different, it would be next to impossible to cover every single possibility – but the generalities actually work surprisingly well. So, let’s look at how you can patch things up.
While there are no hard and fast statistics, some people have estimated that as many as 3 out of 4 break ups are started by women.
Why is this the case?
Generally speaking, women have a better idea of exactly what they want in a mate; while men are just happy to be with a breathing human being. But the other surprising thing is that it’s normally the woman who wants to get back together, but there’s a catch: if they don’t want to get back together, then nothing will change their mind.
The fact that YOU’RE most likely the “complicated” one – and HE’S fairly SIMPLE makes everything work in your favor and to your advantage.
In Most Cases – Your Man WANTS to Get Back Together
He just wants to feel better about himself, about you and about the relationship than he was feeling when you broke up.
He may have just gotten caught up in the break up – without ever really wanting it.
And though you may have wanted to call it quits – now that you’ve had some time away from him and some time to look around and think about it…you may feel that he’s worth another try.
Understanding the differences between men and women – and the differences between you and your man that caused you to fall apart in the first place – can make all the difference for you.
This will help you to get your ex back. You know that the odds are against you making things work. But the real key is that he needs to feel as though he’s in control.
Your first step is to give him plenty of time and space to work things out on his own. There is a great chance that he will start to miss you, but you need to give him the opportunity to miss you. If you keep calling him and won’t leave him alone, then he will continue being sick of you. Obviously that’s not a smart move.
If You Want to Get Back Together You Have to Break Off All Contact
It won’t be easy, but it’s your safest bet.
You’re going to have a lot of free time now that you’ve broken off contact, but that doesn’t mean you should just sit around. Put this time to good use by figuring out what went wrong. This isn’t as easy as it sounds.
You can’t just look at things that are on the surface. Instead you have to dig down deep and get to the root of the problems that caused the break up. A common reason people give for breaking up is arguing, but if you don’t figure out why the arguments happened, then you will never get back together and stay together.
The next step is to work on solutions for the problems you’ve discovered. One thing to keep in mind is that you can’t change anyone but yourself. So, if there are any problem that relate to your ex, then you need to forget them, forgive them, or confront her about them (the first two are much easier than the last one).
If you want to get back together with your ex, then you need to be willing to do whatever it takes. The above steps won’t always be easy, but they will be worth it when the two of you are happily back together.
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