get him backIf you’re trying to find out how to get him back, there is good news and bad news.  The bad news is that there’s no sure fire method for getting your ex-lover back. The fact of the matter is that many exes are gone for good and at some point you might end up having to deal with that and move on.

The good news is that if you’re willing to control a lot of your more natural instincts, you could end up finding that your ex has started to become interested in you once again, and you might in fact get him back.

To Get Him Back: Take Control of Your Emotions

The first instinct that you need to control is the instinct to yell and scream at your ex every time that you see him around. This is a very natural instinct, especially if you were shocked by the breakup and feel betrayed by your ex-lover. However, it’s an instinct you need to curb right here and now if you want to create the opportunity to get him back again.

The more civil you are to him, the more likely it is that he’ll become interested in you once again. So – return his things that were at your place, and always be prepared to laugh and be merry around him. They might not seem like big things to you right now, but they could be the tipping point in the future.

To Get Him Back, Be Comfortable in Your Post-Romance Relationship

You should let your post-romance relationship develop naturally. With some exes, your best position is being the person he sees every now and then at parties. With some, you can eventually become his best friend and a confidant. Take it slow and let him decide which way things will go.

Both of these positions can lead to successful re-ignition of a relationship, so keep that in mind when trying to curb your need to get him back.

Finally, the third instinct that you need to curb if you ever want to successfully get your ex back is the instinct to force the issue.

Many women will push with their ex, forcing him to make a decision when he’s really not ready for it.

If you force the issue right away, obviously you’ll get a no from the ex. It just may be way too soon. You don’t want to force the issue.

Instead, if you want to make it possible to get him back, you need to sit back and give your ex the space he needs, pushing slowly later on after he’s gotten over the feelings that made him want “space” in the first place.

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  1. Kaitlin on March 6, 2011 at 6:57 am

    I have been seeing this guy for the past 8 months. he is not the best at showing emotions. Or bei.g romantic and he always assumes the worst. Is on edge. But we get alng. I recently just this recent thursday, told him that iwas done.we did not talk. Just this morning i recieved a text from him saying im eati.g pizza missing you goodnight. Does he not understamd that i am done? I also told him that if he did love me like he saod he did he would prove it or im done. And i am. How can i make it clear?

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