If you’re a dumped girlfriend, we’re sure you’re wondering what you should do now to try to get over your ex.
You are more than likely feeling hurt, anger, and resentment over the situation, and you need someone to talk to or someone to tell you what to do.
First off, that’s the wrong approach! You do NOT need someone to tell you what to do – but you DO need someone to listen.
There’s nothing wrong with hurting when someone you love is no longer in your life.
We’re not saying you should break down and sob in front of your friends 24/7 about being a dumped girlfriend, but unless your friends are complete fools, they should be able to support you while you’re going through this tough time.
Dumped Girlfriend Mistakes
Sometimes, in any given situation, it’s just as important to know what not to do as it is to know what to do.
For example, do not “hook up” with other guys.
We know, this could help your wounded pride heal and it may take away some of the hurt for a little while, but what about that other guy?
Does he really deserve to be treated like a stand-in for your ex? What has he ever done to you?
No, it’s best to just resist the urge to sleep with other guys at least for a little while until you can do it for the right reasons and not just to build up your own ego, or ease your hurt, or get back at your ex for making you a dumped girlfriend.
Another thing you need to avoid is the dumb move of going out and getting wasted.
Ask yourself what have you really accomplished?
Probably just the biggest hangover you have ever had, that’s what.
If you want to go out with your friends and have some fun to keep your mind off of things, that would be great. But if you want to drink yourself into a stupor – well, that’s just what they do in the movies.
What you WANT to do is to FEEL your feelings thoroughly so you can get through them.
Dumped Girlfriend Healthy Choices
Instead of wallowing in your self pity when you’re a dumped girlfriend, try doing something positive for YOU that won’t leave you feeling even worse.
How about joining a gym and moving so you can get the good hormones in your body circulating – AND get more in shape at the same time?
Why not take a class or go back to school?
It doesn’t matter what it is you do, as long as the things you choose are healthy and will eventually move you forward in your life.
They can help you take your mind off your ex, and your anger, and concentrate on something that feels worthwhile to you
Avoiding the destructive behaviors after a breakup and improving the woman you are will enable you to move forward in a positive way – and will greatly increase the odds that your next relationship will work out better than your last one did.
So if you’re a dumped girlfriend take stock of the woman you are and make improvements while you are healing your broken heart.
Whatever you do – don’t blame yourself, try to figure out how you’re at fault (or him) – and see if you can love YOURSELF through the worst of it.
The most recognized relationship expert of all time – the man who started it all and is considered Oprah’s “Expert” is Michael Webb – and his book on how to get back your man is the best we’ve found. If you want to move forward and forget about the man who treated you so poorly – or, if you want to reconcile with him, you’ll find Michael’s book “Getting Him Back” extremely helpful. Just go here to learn how to stop thinking of yourself as the dumped girlfriend and get the life you want->