by Mimi Tanner

Have you ever noticed that when things in your life are starting to go well; starting to come together, along comes someone who wants to bring you down?

It could be a friend; it could be a close relative! It could be a total stranger. But those die-hard “losers,” the ones who want to wallow in their own misery – they get really bent out of shape when they see you happy and doing well.

Those sad and sorry types will try to bring you down to their level of gloom. Don’t let it happen.

Don’t bother getting angry.

Don’t bother trying to educate them, either, because they aren’t ready to listen to you.

They’ll have to figure that out on their own when they realize that the blame and gloom game does not get them anywhere good.

When things are going well for you, you just keep on smiling.

Stay sweet, stay the course, and don’t let the whiners, the hostile, and the just plain nutcases get you down. Believe me, they will try their best.

In my faith, we call that the attack of the Enemy. And that’s exactly what it is.

There are lots of people out there who would rather you did not succeed.

Yes, they’ll pooh-pooh your dreams; they’ll tell you it’s not going to work – whatever you’re trying, they’ve already done it, and it didn’t work.

Yeah, yeah. Just get away from those people and get back to your dreams muy pronto. You’ll be really glad you did.

Next year at this time, your life will be that much richer, and theirs will still be the same if not worse. And don’t spend your energy trying to save their sinking ship, because you are not at the helm of that ship – they are.

Be joyous – it’s a beautiful world out there full of wonder.

Yes, life is full of problems. And??…

We can handle them and keep going. Frankly, that is 90 percent of life – that you just keep going.

You don’t kill yourself. You don’t give up. You get through the worst of times.

You just… keep going. We ALL have issues and we all have problems – but we can still be joyful and thankful for the good!

Mimi Tanner is a well known relationship expert, helping women attract great men, and handle every aspect of being with them to get the results they want – and – she also happens to be an expert at organizing! I was researching organizing sites and “decluttering” books – and found Mimi’s to be one of the clearest, most tip-laden, and the deepest as far as the emotional issues of clutter are concerned. Take a look at here site to get all kinds of free help and tips->


  1. Jane on October 9, 2008 at 11:09 pm

    I know exactly what you mean – it’s like, why can’t people just be happy for you and support your decisions? I used to stay with an aunt who’s just one of these “Debbie Downers”. One summer, I got a job as a nanny – I was thrilled that I would be making some extra money on the side and all she did was make comments on how degrading it was to take care of other’s kids (she can be quite a snob). I just ignored her and I made enough money that summer that I was able to afford my own place.

  2. Jace on January 13, 2009 at 9:06 pm

    Thank you very much for your words of advice. I’m glad I was able to read it during this time when I’m kind of discovering new things about my employees or other people who does not seem to want me to succeed. I can’t get away from them literally because I see them everyday but may be I can “get away” from them emotionally and not let them affect me. Anyway I’m the one who’s going to benefit from all my efforts, right? Definitely not them!

Leave a Comment