by Todd Creager
STOP! Constant business is bad for your marriage, finances, children and health. Let me prove it to you.
Most of you know I am a marriage therapist who specializes in sexuality, more specifically- how to increase sexual desire in couples. There can be many factors that go into why a partner (or both) loses their passion for each other. But after 25 years of doing this, I can tell you that THE #1 FACTOR is not stopping with your partner. We have not had the role models that showed us the importance of sitting down with one s partner, getting curious about them, asking questions to get to know more deeply who they are, what they feel, what they want. The partners that learn to do this also tend to slow down and get to know each other sensually and sexually as well. This does wonders for their sex life. Most couples are very capable of having this kind of relationship.
Entrepreneurs who learn to slow down and stop, have the opportunity to reflect on what is working and not working in their businesses. They can make new, improved decisions based on what they realize. They have the opportunity to tune into their intuition and follow the advice of their heart. This also leads to better decision making. The result of all this invariably is MORE MONEY. Many of my coaching clients have discovered this to be true.
Parenting experts talk about the need for children to have quality time with parents. Fifteen minutes of totally stopping with your child is better than hours of being busy around your child. Stopping with children is similar to stopping with spouses in that your attention is totally on that child with every other distraction (including distracting thoughts) being in the background. This is such a powerful way to significantly contribute to bringing up well adjusted children.
Your body is meant to be in a state of balance, Yin and Yang, activity and rest, being and doing, Your body is constantly giving you feedback about the necessity of stopping (Via feelings of fatigue, stress, etc,) If you do not pay attention to your body s messages, you may just get a cold. People that have truly learned that art of not paying attention to their body may develop more severe physical or emotional problems. (In addition to not feeling well, there are time costs to not being in optimum physical health-i.e.-doctors visits, needing more rest and sleep than normal, etc.) There is a reason people feel so good after a Yoga class or meditating or a walk in nature. They are giving the body what it needs. The body needs you to stop.
What is so great about stopping is that when you go again you are more efficient, productive and creative. As a matter of fact, one of the biggest ways people LOSE TIME is to be constantly busy. There are many cycles and rhythms in life and the more we attune to our own energy rhythms, the more we will allow ourselves to stop. How many people do you know that are happy being constantly busy? Yes, there is a temporarily relief to get one more thing done on your list. However, develop the trust and faith that if you slow down you will give yourself MORE TIME.
Stopping is a way to receive from life. Take in life; take in your partner. Savor your food; do not eat to fast. Enjoy your children. Remember the real reasons why you do the things you do. It is probably to enjoy your life more. So stop, take a nice deep breath in, exhale all the way out and slow down. See how much your life improves and feel free to let me know about it.
Todd is the real deal. His book – The Long Hot Marriage – is fantastic, totally new stuff I’d never heard of. You can get his free newslettters and look at his book here->