by Cherry Norris, “The Dating Director”

“The most important thing is to have a man respect me!” Ellie proclaimed.

“Do you want a man to cherish your feelings?” I asked.

“Of course. I want that too,” Ellie added.

“Fine. Stay single and take two lovers.”

If you want to be respected and feel cherished in a romantic relationship, you’ll need two partners.

One can respect your ideas and follow your lead. The other can cherish your feelings and make the plans.

See? You can have it all.

Just not at the same time.

Or with the same person.

(Unless he’s a “doormat” who doesn’t have a voice. Or is soooo spineless. Ewww.)

In a romantic relationship, the greatest intimacy is promoted when one partner feels cherished for feelings and the other is respected for thoughts.

If you want to be respected for your thinking AND cherished for your feelings, there is simply no space for another person.

When you Voluntarily give up your respectability in a romantic relationship it means you choose to have your feelings cherished over your thoughts respected and you are willing to follow your man as long as he’s moral, ethical and legal.

This doesn’t mean you can’t be respected for your thoughts Ever…it just means you choose to have your feelings cherished first.

When a man cherishes your feelings, you’ll actually feel respected.

(Think about that for a moment!)

When you don’t feel good about something and you share your feelings with your man…and he “respects” your feelings…he’s actually cherishing you! (Pretty cool, huh?)

When you give your thoughts to a man and he respects your ideas, guess what? You’re the man! When a man respects what you think and want…you are the “Hero” of your relationship.

Many times you go competitive with your partner and you don’t know why. The reason is because you both want to tell each other what to do…or you both wait for the other person to make the plan!

So when you’re meeting a new man…or if you’re already with someone…decide:

Do you want to be respected for your thoughts and leadership skills in your romantic relationship?


Do you want to be cherished for your feelings and are willing to voluntarily give up your lead and follow your respected partner?

If you want to learn exactly what to say and do to have a man cherish you (and know how to artfully guide him) in your romantic relationship…

From Sarah: I wanted to tell you the restCherry Norris is totally fabulous. I’ve known her for a few years, but lost touch with her in the last two and then just met up with her at a woman’s conference over the weekend. I have her “Role of a Lifetime” Home Study Course – and it’s great – really, so easy to use – just go here to read Cherry’s free articles and get her free newsletter (and take a quick quiz, too) – >

1 Comment

  1. Geekmom on February 5, 2009 at 10:30 pm

    I was married to someone who did neither and it was very unfortunate. I was craving both and it all came crashing down and then I learned in the end that he was just a selfish person and none of it was me at all. I also think he was intimidated by me acting like “the man” by having all the ideas and the one doing all the work to support the family. So why didn’t he even try?

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