By Jonathon Aslay
I was watching When Harry Met Sally with my girlfriend the other day, and it got me thinking about what we are and are not willing to put up with in a relationship and dating.
Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan spend the whole movie fighting their attraction to each other, and that alone is pretty entertaining, but there’s an important lesson to be learned from it as well.
Remember that scene where Harry tells Sally that he loves everything about her – even the way it takes her an hour and a half to order a sandwich?
It reminds me that everyone has irritating habits that on the surface can be annoying, but when you love someone, you begin to see those habits in a different light.
I Started To Think About Dating And Relationships, And How Sometimes We Focus On The Wrong Things…
…things like – how he leaves the cap off the toothpaste.
Or how he never wipes the counter when he’s done making breakfast. Or what about the way he organizes his socks by color and weight?
Who does that?
Now, none of those things are bad – and having a neat sock drawer is probably a good thing – but they can be irritating, and if we let them, they’ll turn into a source of anger and resentment that drain your spirit.
Rather than wasting your emotional energy and the time you’re spending dating him – trying to get him to change his ways – you might be better off to work on adjusting your own perceptions.
Like Harry, if you can begin to see those irritating habits as endearing instead of annoying, you may just find yourself falling in love all over again.
It may sound trite, but try to remember that nothing worth having comes without a price. Instead of letting the crumbs on the counter send you over the edge, try remembering that one of the things that drew you to him in the first place was the way he brought you breakfast in bed.
Those crumbs will lose their ability to irritate you – and you might even learn to like them – when you begin to see them as the price that you pay for the whole package.
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