by Bobbi Palmer
I have sympathy for men – when it comes to dating, they have it really hard. Do you already know this?
I think having compassion for the men you meet is an important part of dating like a grownup. I promise that if you subscribe to this belief, your dates will be wayyyy more relaxing, fun and interesting.
I know…men can suck. They can be superficial jerks, emotionally limited, users, slobs….I could go on. But the truth is that the vast majority of the men you’re going to meet are just nice guys looking for a nice woman. (Yes, it’s really that simple.)
So, assuming we’re talking about the nice guys here (as is always the case when I talk about grownup men), keep in mind that they have feelings, fears and disappointments just like you.
And if you think you’ve been rejected, consider men:
For each time we are told “no” in the process of dating – men hear it 50-100 times.
Think about it: from the time they were teenagers, they have been required to ask first. Ouch.
So…for research on men and dating – go out there this weekend and find some nice men to talk to.
Ask them their opinion on this topic.
But please remember that it’s not about who has it harder, just that both men and women have challenges when it comes to dating and relationships.
And PS: Man-hating isn’t something I think is helpful to finding love. I often get an email telling me how I’m a “chauvinist” who tells women to be nice to men when men get to be assholes – and, really, I would never tell you to be “nice” to a man who isn’t treating you right!
But it’s important to tell you the truth –
Man-Hating Is A Waste Of Your Time And Totally Damages Your Dating Success
Instead, I strongly suggest you zero in on your feelings that are intense fear and hatred for men – this is where I can really help you get love instead of more intense disappointment.
Hating men and always being angry with them aren’t protecting you from anything – quite the opposite, in fact.
Life is way too short and too damn good when you finally find that spectacular, loving man. So – Get on with it!
From Sarah: Bobbi is absolutely adorable! You will SO identify with her and her story personally, and her FREE “Man-O-Meter” test is really helpful. Just go here to take the test and get Bobbi’s great free stuff and advice about dating – she’ll teach you how to “Date Like A Grownup”->>