by Stephanie Shields of

Have you ever wondered whether your partner or lover has ever cheated on you online?

It’s completely normal to be curious and actually very important to be sure.

This can be a very serious matter that requires plenty of precaution. Approach this with care.

You should be aware that the internet is growing at such a rapid pace that sites specifically dedicated to helping married couples land an outside affair are springing up. This is shocking but true.

The bad thing about this for couples is that this gives their partner far more options to find something outside of their relationships if they so wish. Imagine what could be happening over cyberspace behind close doors or at his or her work.

I am going to reveal to you a few sites that people will frequent when trying to cheat on the internet.

>> Craigslist Personals
>> Myspace Dating
>> AdultFriendFinder

That’s only the tip of the iceberg….

After extensive undercover research and helping many, many clients … one underground infidelity expert shows that these have been where a lot of not-so-innocent flirting takes place.

So I genuinely believe that anyone who has a hint of suspicion in this matter be aware of this potential activity. However, with this in mind, approach it extremely lightly because you don’t want to hurt the relationship in any way.

If you can check their email account, it will be wise to do a message history search for those sites to see if there are messages coming from those places. For example, Gmail always has these messages archived or saved even if he deletes them.

Another one of the easiest ways to recognize a red flag is to mention a story about how people use these sites for meeting. It can be some interesting article or news about Craigslist or Myspace for example. Just something indirect is totally fine.

An easy-to-follow way would be to search for bizarre Myspace stories and find something that would be interesting to mention. There are so many just sitting on the internet waiting for you to find. I’d focus on one where it involves relationships or infidelity so it becomes a subconscious reminder.

Watch closely for any hint or discomfort that appears as this conversation comes up. If you know your partner on an intimate level, you should have a finger on what defines uncomfortable body language.


Stephanie Shields

From Editor Adrienne: Okay – I basically prefer Rori Raye’s way of dealing with jealousy and worring about if your man is cheating – but if you’re finding yourself obsessed and focusing on what he’s doing, and thinking about what to check out – his phone, his computer – this site is the place to go. Stephanie lays it all out – tells you WHAT to look for, and then how to deal with what you find. If I’m going to worry – I want to know what I’m dealing with, and not just be guessing…so go take a look and get her free newsletters at>


  1. Rose on January 7, 2009 at 1:56 pm

    This is a very informative article with a lot of helpful information. I wish I would have had it about three years ago. It took me some time to catch my ex in the act and get enough evidence on him to prove he was having an online affair.

  2. Laura on January 14, 2009 at 10:27 am

    There are so many different ways for mates to cheat, I’d almost rather have them have an online relationship than one in real life…but now I have so many friends who have told me horror stories of their mates having online affairs that moved into real life!!!! So this kind of article is good to read even if it makes me feel a bit paranoid.

    Maybe a follow up article on cyber sleuthing of a suspected cheater is in order!

  3. bhooma on April 7, 2009 at 5:12 am

    This is a very informative and important article for the mates to be careful on the lines of cheating lover. Its a great article, hope i could have got this some couple of years back. But still there are many ways for the mates to cheat.

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