Your marriage is the central point in your life. All of your other relationships – with children, with family, and with friends – revolve around the marriage axis. Saving your marriage is usually worth all the effort you can put into it.
How do you know if marriage counseling is right for you? If you have any of these problems, you might want to consider counseling to help save your marriage:
Lack of Communication
Problems with Children
Blended Family Issues
A family counselor or therapist will be able to help you to enhance your family relationship by helping you to explore effective communication techniques, conflict resolution solutions, and other kinds of “coping skills” that will make your family work better. A therapist can also help you work on resolving deep issues that have carried over from childhood traumas.
You don’t have to pick the first therapist you call. It is important you find the right thereapist. And it is perfectly acceptable to interview three to five counselors before deciding which will work best for you and your spouse.
Here are some questions you might want to ask these therapists:
Have you worked with couples experiencing difficulties similar to our own?
What should I expect from counseling?
What are your treatment methods?
What are your prices?
You can find the names of therapists by asking for referrals from friends or family members who have tried counseling themselves. There are also referral services set up by non-profit boards who can give you the name or names of licensed professionals.
If you do not get a satisfactory number of referrals, you might want to check out therapist’s sites on the internet. When the yellow pages was the only source of advertising for therapists, the consumer would get little more than a name and a phone number. But now, a counselor’s site can include a resume, articles he or she has written, and a description of their practice. You will be able to get an idea of how a therapist will work from his or her web site.
You do want to make sure that the therapist you choose is licensed. Some therapists have what is known as a MFT (Marriage & Family Therapist License) which can only be obtained after a therapist completes both a master’s degree in Psychology and 1500 hours of internship work under another licensed therapist. Other acceptable licenses include the LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker), Ph.D or Psy.D. (Psychologist with a doctorate degree) and M.D. (Psychiatrist.)
You want to choose a licensed professional because there are educational, internship, and practice standards that must be maintained to retain the license. “Relationship coaches” and others with similar names do not have similar obligations.
Different counselors have different payment options. Some offer sliding scale fees while others are able to take insurance. Look into your insurance plan to see what options it offers you. But don’t let it limit you.
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